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  • June 1, 2019 at 1:33 pm in reply to: How can I cope with these feelings for my best friend? #296819
    Kialani
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    Hi

    Yes I have but he just said he wants to concentrate on himself and his career. I was fine with all of that until he started to complain how I had friend zoned him. What was I supposed to do? Its like he wants it his way but is happy to keep me clinging on to hope, just in case he changes his mind… I know that isn’t what he would do but it feels like it sometimes when he sends such confusing messages.

    Kia

    June 1, 2019 at 1:14 pm in reply to: How can I cope with these feelings for my best friend? #296799
    Kialani
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    Hi Anita

    That is an interesting point that I had not really thought about before. She is not married, I know she has dated other guys since his Father and they have also ended quite badly so it is mainly just him and her.

    Sometimes I get the impression he just finds it easier to be single, he has never spoken much about his former relationships and had never mentioned any romantic thoughts about other girls to me even if I have asked. He has never really asked me about any of my relationships (if I bring a guy up he doesn’t say much) other than once he advised me not to go back to an ex as he thought the ex would hurt me and he doesn’t want anyone to hurt me.

    I have spoken to him about how I feel but he just says “You know I don’t do relationships though” and that is about it so I don’t push the matter and we slip straight back into the friend zone.

    Thank you for your help, I appreciate it!

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    June 1, 2019 at 12:42 pm in reply to: How can I cope with these feelings for my best friend? #296769
    Kialani
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    Hi Anita

    Thank you for your reply.

    I feel like I understand him quite well in some ways but not in other ways. He has a wonderful relationship with his Mother, they are very close but he is not a Mother’s boy, as such, he just respects her and she is his main priority as she raised him single handedly and he is her only child. When I met her she was very kind and welcoming she knew all about me and we got on really well, she often says hello to me if she is around when he calls me.

    I know he doesn’t like drama and I think he relates relationships with drama (I know his Mother and Father had a bad relationship when he was younger).

    Thank you 🙂

     

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