UGH – this sounds like the worst. I am in a similar limbo (but, we weren’t engaged and didn’t call of a wedding) but we are semi-broken up and yet still talk and act like things are totally normal. And, let me tell you a bit about my background. I am 27 and I have had MANY struggles in my life with anxiety, co-dependency, and coping. My mom passed away when I was 7 and I have a very emotionally removed father. I get mental issues, I get issues with controlling your life, and I get issues with men.

I have spent the past 3 years in what I consider an emotional rollercoaster. Friends and family keep tell me I am just emotionally beating myself up – they are right – and SO ARE YOU. The hardest thing to do is accept and then DO SOMETHING when you realize your partner doesn’t have your best interests at heart and they don’t feel like YOU are more important than them.

Courtney – if this man loved you more than anything else in the world and his happiness was contingent on your happiness, then he would not only never consider leaving you, but he wouldn’t put you through the pain and embarrassment of a breakup and then continue to use you for intimacy and friendship; you cannot be friends right now.

I feel for you. Matters of the heart are the most difficult of all as we grow up. But, at some point you have to ask yourself if it is worth it, if feeling this way is acceptable, and the best part is this article from Elite Daily – get over that average of 11 weeks (3 months) of hurt and you will see some light!

http://elitedaily.com/dating/science-timeline-heartbreak/868720/