Hi Stacie,

I completely understand why you medicated yourself with relationships. It comes down to love. When in longing, we reach for the best of the bad because it’s the closest to the good. And leaving your 16 year relationship is a BIG deal. Congrats on that very big step. Not easy I am sure.

Warmly,

Kelly

Hello Kathy,

I think you are right — shame is like a chronic disease. The good thing about it is that you could transform shame by sharing it with someone you trust. It won’t have the same power over you eventually. I’m sorry that you carried the shame for so long.

It’s normal to feel jealous of someone who has something you want so badly. You are allowed to have desire.

Self-criticism on top of feeling grief about not having something only further hurts your self-esteem. No need to punish yourself more.

You are good enough to be loved.

Warmly,

Kelly

Marilyn,

I love that you surrender to a greater source for connection and to hold you in the space of loneliness.

Warmly,

Kelly

Hello Melinda,

Thank you for sharing your shame. I believe that when you share your shame with someone you trust, the shame will eventually lose it’s power. So thank you for trusting this e-forum to share your story.

I also believe that it’s important to have the capacity to receive just as it is to give. While giving is important, we also put ourselves at risk of becoming completely depleted when we desperately need to receive in moments. I wish for someone to braid your hair and …more.

Warmly,

Kelly