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  • January 16, 2019 at 12:59 pm #274997
    Katie
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    Hi Sofioula,

    You 100% made the right choice. Sounds like he treated you appallingly!  He sounds very controlling and untrustworthy and you deserve better. I am also going through a break up right now so I know how painful it is and what your going through – but we will get through it and you are much better off without him.

    Katie

    January 14, 2019 at 12:21 pm #274535
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    Hi Anita,

    Thank you for that advice – that is really helpful because I am so scared of feeling the pain but essentially breaking up with someone is a grieving process and I guess I have quite a long way to go. I just hope that in the future I’ll be able to see I made the right choice, even if it was the hardest decision I’ve ever made.

    Katie

    January 12, 2019 at 3:54 pm #274027
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    Hi Inky,

    That’s what I was thinking and it was obviously those thoughts that led me to break up. I think because it hurts so much at the moment it is hard to remember why I made that decision. I really hope in time as the pain subsides it becomes more clear that I made the right choice, and I hold hope that we may reunite in the future.

    Thank you for reassuring me.

    Katie

    January 12, 2019 at 3:51 pm #274025
    Katie
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    Hi Anita,

    Thanks for this insight. I like to believe that I have the strength to ensure this pain that I’m going through – but I hope in time it lessens because I just feel so heart broken currently.

    I like to believe maybe in the future we could reunite – once we have had some space to live our own separate lives for a while.

    Thank you for taking the time to respond to me.

    Katie

    January 12, 2019 at 8:11 am #273975
    Katie
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    Hi Anita – thank you for your response.

    I guess you are right – at one point I believed he was my everything but maybe not towards the end of the relationship.

    And yes, I suppose confusion as well as the guilt I was feeling for having these doubts in the first place may have made me unhappy.

    I have heard that commonly after a break up people tend to only see the good points of the relationship – so I think you could be right in saying I’m not seeing it how it was recently.

    The reason for no future plans was mainly due to us being long distance, and neither of us being quite ready to move to the other city. I think while I was having these feelings of doubt there was a feeling inside me that I just needed to be on my own for a bit – as I had been with him since I was 18 and had not experienced single life as an adult woman. Also, as I mentioned travelling is something that is very important to me and due to his financial situation he would not have been able to join me.

    I’m just really struggling to not have him in my life – regardless of how my feelings may have changed throughout the relationship he was still my best friend and I miss speaking to him every day, it really hurts.

    I guess what i’m trying to figure out is – do I regret the break up or is it just pain from missing him and having to readjust my entire life?

    Katie

     

     

    January 12, 2019 at 7:48 am #273973
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    Hi Kkasxo,

    I’m really sorry for your pain and struggling – I understand how you’re feeling. I recently broke up with my partner of 5 years, and although it was my decision I am sometimes filled with regret and unsure if it was the right choice. I feel the same as you – worried about meeting anyone else that I will have that same connection and bond with. It’s my first real heart break and it is awful. I cry myself to sleep every night, I feel like I’m missing part of myself. I go to work and act happy and normal etc but it’s just a front. My friends who have been through break ups tell me it does get easier and I guess we have to believe them.

     

    Hope we can get through this.

    January 12, 2019 at 7:22 am #273963
    Katie
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    Thanks for your reply Mark.

    What would you like me to clarify for you?

    The problem is I’m not sure whether the relationship was right or not.

    I am 23 and he is 25.

     

     

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