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September 9, 2020 at 3:53 pm #366465
Katie
ParticipantThank you all for these positive messages. It has really helped me put this in perspective instead of just hearing people demonize him or tell me Iām a fool for letting it get to this point.
I know there are great things ahead of me and I just have to be patient with my healing process.
September 9, 2020 at 12:38 pm #366450Katie
ParticipantAnita,
I agree that she likely doesnāt know he cheated on me with her, that he left me for her, or that I really even exist or that he continues to talk to me.
I guess I want to believe there is truth to what he says when he says he loves and misses me. He has even gone as far as to say he doesnāt want to be with her and āsheās just not me,ā but as I mentioned above, he claims to be happy with her. Ā He tries to come to my home which he knows is wrong. Every time he says something inappropriate to me I remind him that this girl would not be okay with the things heās saying and he says he doesnāt care. Iām just so confused. Heās working so hard to keep me and itās just destroying me.
To touch on Peterās point. Throughout our relationship he has accepted accountability for certain mistakes and apologized but always lacked action. He would say he would change but wouldnāt. I guess the part of my ex that Iām holding onto is that he was there through the toughest time in my life and he made a lot of mistakes, but Iāve never been with anyone Iāve loved so deeply and has made me smile or laugh as much as him despite the bad stuff. I guess I thought the good always outweighed the bad. I always figured that things happen in relationships and the things that happen can make you stronger, but only if you work together. I guess I have to accept that he didnāt do his part, didnāt take accountability, didnāt live up to his promises, and has created the situation we are in now. Heās only been with this girl for a few weeks and already wants to cheat on her. I guess what Iām realizing by writing this is he has so much work to do inside to change and better himself. I just donāt know how to get out from this hold he has on me.
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