Hi Faber,

I like what sunshineandlemonade and Yue wrote.

Just this year alone I had two situations that left me scratching my head. One time a guy approached me to tell me “Hi, I’m not sure if I like you yet. Impress me”. And I just said “you’re joking right?” and I laughed as I walked away.

Another situation was when a guy who I know was checking me out all night finally came up to me just to say “I like your eye” so I asked “eye? just one?” He said yes. I could not believe what I was hearing (I have monolids though I’m not Asian, and one of my eyes is a little less mono. That’s the one he liked hehe). I still want to laugh when I think about that. I decided to look at him as if he was absolutely retarded. I gave him my “I’m worried about your mental health face” and tilted my head. I just said “ok” and decided not to even walk away just turned away and begun chatting with someone else. He ended up feeling stupid, not me.

The thing is that whatever beauty we have or don’t have, it wont really matter down the line anyway. At the end of the day, it really does come down to personality and who we are as people. If I think I’m great others will think that as well but if I walk into a room lacking confidence people will pick up on my energy.

I once knew this girl who was not very attractive yet she could have any guy she wanted. If you asked any guy if they thought she was pretty, they would say that she wasn’t. There was just something about her that made all the guys want her. She ended up getting married to a really nice and extremely handsome guy.

My approach is a little different. I overall do not like men. I think they mostly suck and go to bars to try to get girls 9 out of 10. They should feel lucky talking to a cool girl like you, not the other way around. If he says something stupid, don’t laugh it off as someone insecure, laugh it off as someone who things this guy is a total idiot. It works!