From my experience, a lot of things can be said in anger that people don’t truly mean. In the midst of a heated debate, emotions can skew what one knows to be true. He said “at that minute” he doesn’t love you. Could this have been spoken in anger?

I think Anita has some good points (like continuing to be financially responsible), but I disagree with some others points. Conflict in marriage in unavoidable. Period. The question is not if we have a conflict, but how we will react to it. The important thing is to honest and to treat each other with love. Ignore that first instinct of fear or of anger, but take a step back (literally if you have to) and think about the fact that your husband is also a human who has legitimate feelings, even if you can’t understand them at the time.

Keep lines of communication open. Let your husband know that you’re listening. Let him know that, yes, you feel hurt by what he said, but you are willing to talk about it and willing to do what it takes to keep the relationship. Distance can be hard on any relationship. VERY hard. I’m wondering if this is a factor, as well.

Some people go to counseling by themselves even if their spouse does not want to. Maybe that will help you figure some things out for yourself and think through some things, not to mention help you process your PTSD.

My heart goes out to you. I will pray for you, and I hope you are able to work things out. Remember marriage involves giving grace and grace and grace. -Karissa