Yes I’ve heard similar about the Muslim religion but also thought it was only practiced to various degrees….

His father was a good deal older than his mother (at least 20years) so his father died of a heart attack when he was in his 70’s in the early 2000’s.  his mother also died of a heart attack around 2011 and I believe she was in her 60’s.  His brothers and sisters who passed were much older than him and had already moved out of the family home years prior…He wouldn’t really elaborate on how they died and I didn’t want to press.  yes I can imagine in that family being the baby may have meant getting picked on a lot by older siblings or neglected in many ways .

Anita,

It appears he blocked me from everything.  I tried to respond last night to his last insult, we were talking via text and my text didn’t go through.  so thats it. I know I should just focus on myself and healing, I should not think about what he’s doing but it so hard not to.  I can’t stop obsessing over the why? why would he do this? Why was he like this? did I miss some red flags or warnings? or was he just really good at pretending.

Thank you, sobriety was not easy at first but it’s a way of life for me now…. I’m grateful for everyday.

I talked to him last night finally.  I just wanted to hear him actually tell me its over.  He was very cold and angry towards me.  I’m just so confused at how it got to this point.  I don’t feel like I did anything to deserve this sort of treatment.  I always treated him well and tried to make him happy.  We practically lived together for the past year. I didn’t nag, pick fights or give him a hard time about anything. All I wanted to do was work towards a bright  future together and support each other in our dreams and ambitions. Enhance each others lives

You want to end our relationship? fine but why do you have to be so cruel about it.  He said he’d talk to me but this would be the last time he’d ever speak to me and then he’s going to block me on everything.  He told me he didn’t love me for a long time.  That he was seeing someone else and asked me to please respect that and move on myself.  Seeing someone else just 4 days later??! I asked him for how long has he been seeing someone else?  They were friends until just this past weekend when they went on their first ‘date’.  I asked him why he stayed with me for so long if he didn’t love me anymore? He didn’t know. I got angry and told him he was immature and that this ‘new relationship’ would likely suffer the same fate as ours.  He blew up and hit me where it hurt.  I’m a recovered alcoholic, 5 years sober.  Of course I slowly opened up to him about this over the course of our relationship.  I lost a lot of friends when I quit drinking.  I also stopped going out and socializing for quite a while. I had to isolate myself from triggers.  As a result I don’t really have many friends now. He told me I must be fuc*** up from my alcoholic past because who doesn’t have any friends? He told me I’m boring as hell and probably have ‘mental’ problems to have become an alcoholic in the first place and that I should get ‘help’.

I’m just in shock and devastated.  He broke my heart.  I’ve never had someone close to me flip on me in such a cruel way and so suddenly.

I just can’t believe this is how someone would end a 2 year relationship….

Anita, no this is not the first time I received the silent treatment… He was quick to anger and defense in most of the conflict that arose between us.  The silent treatment was one of his favorite methods to use when he was angry about something.  It drove me nuts and he knew it.