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  • January 8, 2019 at 3:01 pm in reply to: Rocd or falling out of love #273241
    Vee
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    Dear Anita

    When I was younger i used to feel really protected and I was a really happy child. Only when i hit around 9 year old, when my parents started to have marriage problems, was I started to feel quite alone and sad, but even then I was pretty naive about emotions. In a way I feel like I wasnā€™t familiar with the idea of how hard life actually ā€œisā€, as if I wasnā€™t programmed to stay sad for too long.

    January 8, 2019 at 2:56 pm in reply to: Rocd or falling out of love #273233
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    Peter

    I do tend to be an overthinker. When I was younger I used to see it as simply wanting to know everything there was to know, in a good way. As time went by my friends started to innocently make fun of it and not long ago, I was pointed out for having ocd like attitudes.

    I deeply appreciate the suggestions and I will take time and consideration into reading then.

    Thank you very much

    January 8, 2019 at 12:46 pm in reply to: Rocd or falling out of love #273207
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    Anita

    In a way it does. I understand the whole situation but i still feel quite lost. Are you trying to say that if i change my perspective on love Iā€™ll feel better on the relationship or that Iā€™ll understand that we are or not good together?

    I do feel safe with him, I realize he protects me and supports me and has been with me through every storm I got myself into. For some reason i feel like I have to leave him and I donā€™t quite understand why. It scares me to imagine leaving and it fills me with guilt because I know how good he is for me and how i will miss him but I canā€™t get this thought out of my head and itā€™s driving me crazy

    January 7, 2019 at 2:50 pm in reply to: Rocd or falling out of love #272923
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    Hello Peter, of course!

    When I used the word Love i was for that feeling of safety and sensation that you have found a part of yourself in other person. That thing inside of you that makes you smile every time you look at that person. I can see I might still have a Disney like idea of love. Right now I feel like somethingis missing and that i might not be in love anymore, whigh makes me feel guilty, nervous and sad

    When reflecting on my ideia of being loved i imagine what it have now. Support and affection, dedictation and kindness towards another. Feeling like that person is truly there when I need

    January 7, 2019 at 2:22 pm in reply to: Rocd or falling out of love #272911
    Vee
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    Dear Anita

    It does make sense. And its actually quite calming to see things from that perspective. I’ve been just so focused on feeling like I had to leave for no reason that I couldn’t think of anything else.. I tend to get into vicious cycles of thoughts and i literally lose track of everything else.

    is there anything I can do avoid these situations?

    January 7, 2019 at 1:49 pm in reply to: I need help working through this. #272895
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    Dear Anita

    oh I am so sorry! I am new to the site..

    thank you very much

    January 7, 2019 at 1:26 pm in reply to: I need help working through this. #272883
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    Hello, Iā€™ve been having a lot on my mind but I will try to be quick so I donā€™t lose myself. I just wanted to clear out that Iā€™m 17 years old and I know itā€™s quite an young age to worry so much about a relationship but here it goes.

    I started dating my boyfriend almost 2 years ago and we just connected so much. 7 months in we were having some problems and we decided to have a break up and he decided to be with another girl for about 3 months. We then got back together and we were very happy and everything was so perfect. Even like this I never felt the same in my own sick. I felt very insecure and depressed most of the time, regardless of how happy I truly was with him. Later on the summer of 2018 e started having doubts about how much I loved him and if I did or did not. After many hours of crying and research I realized that most of what I felt was driven from ROCD, which my therapist reaffirmed.

    Now those thoughts at back but in a slightly different way. Instead of constantly questioning how much I love him all I can think is that maybe Iā€™ve fallen out of love and Iā€™m truly no longer in love with him.. this thought makes me sad because i donā€™t want to lose him, but the idea of not leaving also scares me.. I donā€™t know if it is rocd again or maybe me truly falling out of love.

    I feel like nothing in life brings me true joy anymore and so our relationship but I didnā€™t want to throw it all away. Iā€™m really scared to be honest.

    Anyways, could you give me any thoughts or opinions? Thank you very much

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