@brievuong no i only got tinder at the moment, had a few others but they were full of bots . I didnt try any app meant for other countries.

@brievuong it is part of it. But i also concerned with being ignored by those matches or even people i know. I just don’t many people ( including the matches ) would tend to ignore me at first or after some chatting. Finding the love connection is the other main reason why i am on the dating app too.

Hi anita,

let me share with you with i put in my profile description :

” My name is Chris,23 this year. I am employed, working 60 hours a week.
I believe there is no greater experience then to have someone who cares.
Outside of work, i spend my free time gaming, watching science documentaries and reading, just to name a few.
Currently reading ‘ Thinking , Fast & Slow ‘ by Daniel Kahneman. “

This is after listening to your advice. I probably will make some changes again here and there. As for starting conversations with my to-be matches, i still have no clue as to what i should say.

I responded to that girl, though now i have to practice being patient with not getting instant results, as you said. Sometimes, she reply slow, so i can use that to improve on my patience and cut down on my anxiety.

I also found a book on emotional intelligence ‘ Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ ‘ by Daniel Goleman , as recommended by brievuong to find a book on emotional intelligence , but have not purchased it yet.

Hi anita,

i made some changes to my profile description according to your suggestions. I didn’t put in ” but I would very much prefer to spend my time instead in the company of young woman, taking walks together hand in hand, talking about anything, everything or nothing at all. ” though . Could i maybe put that i’m finding chat buddies ( as in, not trying to get into the serious stuff first ) . or will that be weird?

Just abit of news. I mentioned the girl from tinder, whom i went to watched a movie with. The one whom i didn’t contact for a month now. She had just texted me, say : ” Hey! Busy working recently ? Finally got my holidays ”

I kinda felt i was a let down last time during the little date.. we have chatted for a bit since about almost 12 hours ago.

Hi anita,

The one liner i do send to the girls is ” Hi, i am Jun hao, 23 this year and currently working. How about you? ” .

However in my profile description, i put this :

i’ll admit im not a good conversation starter. Sometimes im damn quiet too. But thats how i am. Simply simple

Aquarius

My favourites types of music are ******

Currently reading ‘ Thinking, Fast & Slow ‘ by Daniel Kahneman .

^ The above is what i put on my profile. I never put what i am looking for.

I been using tinder for a few months already, i meet up with 2 girls from there. I guess waiting is a must. I recently had more matches after changing to that profile description as i mentioned above, and adding another profile picture, as compared to previously.

But most of them just match with me and dont reply. And relationships need time, so i probably have to learn to take it slowly..

Hi anita ,

It felt like anxiety, the anxious feeling while waiting for her text. When i got blocked, i feel very restless, i wont have the mood to do anything at all.

Kind of like falling into a trap, which is love, and a one sided love at that.

Both are such horrible feelings . It is just like you are dying inside. Sometimes i still get the feelings now, but much lesser..

Hi anita, Sann and Nina, thank you for your replies.

anita, I forgot to mention that its not only girls on tinder who ignores me. Previously, i also contacted an ex-classmate from about 6 years ago via facebook messenger. At first, she replied back, and the replies were very slow. Eventually after trying to get her mobile number, she stopped replying. I also tried to contact another person and got the same results, though she only replied once and that was it. You told me to think of another conversation starter and to be always truthful, always authentic, but more attractive. However, i been scratching my head and cant think of anything good to use..

Sann, after all these incidents, i start to feel that the problem is that i am boring. What u mention is true. I am an Aquarius, i really do not portray out my expressions as compared to many other people, i have feelings, i just don’t show it out. I have met a girl from tinder last month, we went out just for lunch for the first meeting. However, i really screwed up big time on our third meeting. We went to watch ‘ The Jungle Book ‘ , and i honestly admitted i didn’t talk much to her during the whole movie. I really didn’t know what in the world i was thinking at that time. It was probably my biggest mistake. We didn’t text for a month now.. i feel disappointed with myself.

I am currently working full time. My job is a 12 hour shift, and my workdays are random. There might be times when i am on day shift, and times when i am on night shift. I only get 2 days off each week. Because of this, i do not really have time to go out to find anything that interests me. I also do not like going out alone. Maybe this is one of the things pulling me down too.

Nina, i feel tired from the 12 hour shifts, but i kind of used to it. I still live with my parents. I really love reading. I am currently reading ‘ Thinking, Fast and Slow ‘ by Daniel Kahneman . It is a psychology book about the ways people think. I am taking my time to read it. I also have a few more books i have brought still waiting to be read. I know that tinder is more of a booty call app, however things are different here in my country, the girls here use tinder to make more friends and maybe a serious partner, and not for booty calls. This i know, because that is how it is like in my country.

Sorry for the late replies, i was busy at work.