Hi Kirk
So sorry for U and your son. It sounds like to me she wants out but doesn’t have the emotional maturity to just come out and say it. Fear of the unknown does crazy things. I was in a similar situation my husband and attorney but an alcoholic. He gave up law practice decided we should move out of state and I felt it was my place to follow him and keep family together. Things as bad as they had been only got worse. I finally got the courage…I don’t even know if it was courage since I was scared to death…to leave. I had no family but took my 2 kids and moved back to the area where I grew up. I did everything I could to try to facilitate a relationship between my kids and their dad…insisting they go on holidays summers all for naught. He was interested. My kids said I did the right thing in leavin and they have no relationship with him…but he is the one that put other things before them and showed no interest. He has totally moved on with his life without them. It’s o hard especially wanting your kids to have a family unit but u sound like one in a million and someone will appreciate u more than u can imagine. U can’t do this for the both of u she has to participate in this union or it will not work. No one deserves to a life of unhappiness or frustration. But it’s very hard so I wish u the best. Sometimes u have to do what is the absolute best for U and your child and that may involve some pain..discomfort. but probably no more than what u r experiencing now. Take care

I tried to follow instructions for starting new thread but couldnt seem to get it…since you asked Anita i actually wanted to kinda dump thoughts on you.

Whenever I read anything Anita writes I marvel at her wisdom more like envy. I’m trying so hard to not fall into negative thoughts somewhere I do believe what u think and say u bring about but my life has fallen apart. I am beyond scare don’t want to die afraid of my existence since it can’t be called living. As ashamed and humiliated as it is to say it I’ve been battling a total breakdown over a year. I have lost everything home car no income in over a year. Where I’m staying now I have to leave so don’t know where I’ll be in a week. I put this out only to say I don’t even know where to begin to rebuild my life. I go in a circle of need job need car need place to stay need a small cash reserve to get going it goes round and round. I feel so isolated and marginalized. I used to be a social worker and for last couple of years have been nothing. I don’t know what to say I guess I’m asking that all of please send me good thoughts and energy. I’m scared. Thanks
Pam