Hi Josh,

it saddened me to read of your very real distress but what I felt came through your words is intelligence and drive. You have detailed each of your challenges coherently which indicates they are not about to overwhelm you any time soon. What a wise decision to get out and go for a walk! I was not as sensible as you and found myself virtually unable to move for several days after a recent event. I hope that the walk helped and I wonder if perhaps that may also continue to help you as you could develop an exercise programme at home. You also have access to the Internet and wonder if maybe studying a language may be a way to spend time usefully and I imagine would also be useful in the military.
I hope that writing it out has helped and that solving your practical problems will help with your emotional ones . I also hope that knowing other people think your situation currently sucks helps too. My life experience tells me that it will get better for you and hopefully sooner rather than later.
Look after yourself

Hi Phil,

I have had experience of LDR’s both good, bad and heartbreaking. The only thought coming to me that I feel is valid to you is that if it is meant to be it will work out. Be careful that the relationship remains a reality. A constant flow of communication is vital otherwise your imagination will begin to begin to fill in the gaps. There are so many needs that will not be met, there is so much of your life during which you will feel lonely and sad but when you are together it will be magical. Only, very quickly followed by the inevitable heartache of saying goodbye again. In my opinion the distance must be temporary.
I wish you luck and happiness
Jo