anita–

it was your referencing to the line i wrote “works in the advertisement business and seamlessly closes the most sought after deals” linked to your statement of hiring “best divorce attorney in the area and hire that person to represent me” that made me consider that action as having punitive measures.  the three words “best divorce attorney” makes me think highly expensive and since your theoretical husband was unfaithful, in a court of law he would have to foot the bill for not only his attorney, but also yours.  most women i’ve spoken to who were cheated on stated that they felt they were slighted by their husband’s infidelity and reacted and acted in kind.

jose luis paez …

Anita–

if i found out that my spouse had been having a year long affair i would have left them.  no questions asked because i don’t tolerate cheating.  see, i believe that humans being aren’t inherently monogamous.  and the reason i believe this to be true occurred when i posed this question to myself:  when i was in a relationship, was i ever attracted to somebody else?  and the answer was yes.  this is when i realized that monogamy is a choice.  now, whenever i get into another relationship, i will have a conversation with my girlfriend about monogamy, and if we both agree to treat our relationship as such then it is our responsibility to hold ourselves accountable and to respect the choice we made as a couple.  if it is broken, then i don’t see any reason to continue being with that person.  so the answer to your question is, “it depends.”  it depends on how mature the individual is when faced with infidelity.  it depends on their values and beliefs because those dictate our actions.

so now i return the question over to you.  what would you have done? …