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  • in reply to: "It will all work out…" #49335
    Jon King
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    Still trying to figure that out.

    in reply to: Dealing with negativity #48979
    Jon King
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    Thanks to everybody for their kind words and wisdom, it has really helped.

    The funny thing is, sometimes I find myself being able to deal with negative situations. It almost like I don’t care (not caring isn’t the correct word because I actually care so much, but it is the only word I can think of to describe it so it will have to suffice). Then there are times when I think my head is going to explode. Sometimes I just want to tell people to shut the hell up. I don’t know what it is, but it seems like most people I know will find the one negative thing about a situation and focus on it. I really can’t stand that and I’m beginning to see that that’s OK. I am human; I am allowed to have feelings and emotions and it’s perfectly reasonable that I get angry. I spend a lot of time and energy trying to fight that anger and I need to just let it be what it is. I need to take myself out of stressful and negative situations; I’m seriously working on that at the moment.

    My “introduction” to all of this type of thinking came from the works of Marshal Rosenberg and his ideas about non-violent communication. Although I think NVC can be limiting to growth to a certain extent, I’ll never forget one thing Mr. Rosenberg said–never do anything that you don’t want to do. I have changed a lot in the past few years to live a bit closer to this adage but it continues to be a process. I guess it always will be.

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    in reply to: Dealing with negativity #48910
    Jon King
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    Thanks for your reply, but what if I don’t want to detach from the people who are being negative? What if I see something in them, something that if just slightly altered could change their perception and their view of life? I know you can’t change people, they have to do it on their own, but should I not try to be of assistance in any way I can?

    I am not trying to proselytize my views to people but sometimes I afraid that is what ends up happening. I refuse to give up on people I care about. I want to see love in all people but it is so difficult sometimes because of the negativity.

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