Some thoughts on this as the female friend in many scenarios in male-dominated fields.

Have you tried befriending this person?  Would you feel comfortable doing that?  As someone who is around men most of the time, I have found myself wanting good girlfriends to hang out with.  Some women around my work tend to be catty and very competitive. I’ve learned to reach out to those who seem to want friends.  It makes a huge difference for them and for me.  Even though I do meet men here and there that I click with, aside from our decidedly unromantic shared interests, everything else is professional.

I am straight and I do date. Having said that, I prefer to date people who have nothing to do with my work, aren’t fans, and have lives and interests of their own.

You may not realize this, but I hear a lot of great things about you from your partners. My first thought is usually, “I’d like to meet this person!” not “Y’all think you have solid relationship?  Hold mah beer!”