Hi Anita,

I wanted to update you on what has taken place with me. I’ve been learning to think before I speak and if I say something that may come off negative, I say it in a calmer tone and usually with one or two words as to not escalate anything unnecessarily. I also try to put a positive spin on what maybe conceived as negative.

I’ll never stop voicing my opinion. I just need to learn how to voice it so it doesn’t come off negative or hostile for it makes for better resolutions in the end.

Hi Anita,

I mostly dispute what someone says. For instance, a co-worker noticed something about another co-worker that she reported to a supervisor (she didn’t lag (rat) on anyone. It was a safety issue she was concerned about). When she told me what she had done I immediately went to combative mode and expressed that I felt that she shouldn’t have told the supervisor. She explained why she did but for some reason I wasn’t hearing it. I was so busy getting my rusted two cents out that her logic didn’t hit me until later that night when I was home.

I’m very sensitive to lagging on someone. I only lag in situation in which I am either involved or am affected. Otherwise, I let others dig their own grave.

I’m quick to react instead of respond.

I hope that helps.