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  • January 30, 2017 at 8:44 pm in reply to: Broke off 8 year relationship #126432
    Jennifer Boyatt
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    It’s going to hurt for a bit. *big hugs* But you only have one life, and I think you realized you can’t live it in pretending with someone. Bless you.
    ~Jennifer

    January 30, 2017 at 8:40 pm in reply to: why games are aren't fun #126431
    Jennifer Boyatt
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    Amen! Love this: “The thing to do is not to combat a bad relationship with bad, but with good and leaving it as soon as possible.”
    ~Jennifer

    January 30, 2017 at 8:38 pm in reply to: Broke up impulsively cant figure it out #126430
    Jennifer Boyatt
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    Laion, precious,

    It sounds like you are on a journey of self discovery and healing. Of course, you will be on that your whole life; such a path is never ending, with ever increasing insights and ever increasing peace. Of course, becoming a ‘healed you’ is going to be best for both yourself and for your partner.

    In communicating with your partner and possibly returning to each other–let him make his own decision about whether he wants to be with you. Don’t make it for him ‘ahead of time before he has a chance to make it’. Keep it simple. Don’t give him the analysis you gave us (at least to begin with, unless you both want to explore deep into each others’ psyche). But for this first conversation when you apologize and ask for him back–just ask . . . ‘Can you take me as I am with all my flaws?’ If he says ‘Yes’ (and which sounds like he is more able to do that for you than you are for yourself), then allow it. And, plainly, love him back. Just love him. (With his flaws.)

    Well, I wish you the best. And I hope you can come to a little happier ending here, you both deserve it. Prayers.
    ~Jennifer

    January 30, 2017 at 8:24 pm in reply to: Terminally Single #126427
    Jennifer Boyatt
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    Dear hev,

    (and anita and Kat)

    I acknowledge your sorrow. You’re so precious.

    You never have to wait for love. You do not have to have permission from a man (or anyone) to experience full love. Thank goodness!!

    You can be on your own side, have your own back, think yourself is awesome, spend time with yourself, give yourself gifts, support yourself, laugh with yourself. “Hey, sexy!” you can wink at yourself in the mirror.

    You will still feel some sadness, of course, (and go ahead and allow yourself to feel it)–because partnership is a natural inclination of human beings. But you won’t have too much time for it, because you’ll be too busy having a blast with yourself!! Ha ha.

    When you learn to love yourself (doesn’t happen overnight), then a man (or woman) who would love to join you in that level of being will likely show up. For as long as you reject yourself, the potential significant others you come in contact with are going to follow that (energetic) lead.

    In the meantime, while you grow into that self-embracing woman, you can start to look at other human beings–both men and women, of any age and circumstance, whether or not you would think of them romantically–as ‘people who are in your path’, and seek to bless them with your smile and your hello and your listening ear. If you don’t get out much for that–well, hmm, . . . get out some more!! ha ha.

    Anyway, I can tell you are a thoughtful and talented woman. Thanks for sharing your struggle–an important one a lot of us totally ‘get’, including me. Bless you.
    ~Jennifer

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