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  • #275171
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    My mother has little empathy. Ā  I have an over abundance. Ā  Ā That’s part of it I think

    #275167
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    He also had a very almost secretive vibe. Ā And aggression underlying. Ā  You could feel it

    #275163
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    Yes I do feel that way. Ā  Ā Now that I’m a mother I don’t understand it. Ā  Ā  But especially I don’t understand manipulation.

    #275155
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    I’m thinking too that maybe he is a sex addict. Ā  Ya think. Ā  Ā It got to the point where I didn’t even want to go out in public w him because it was so uncomfortable how he would oogle other women. Ā  Nothing discreet about it…. right in front of me eye up and down and back up and smile and eye contact and stare hard. Ā  And then convince me I didn’t see what I saw. Ā  Ā  I’m not a jealous kind and I’m pretty attractive I’ve been told…. that wore on me. Ā  Ā I’ve learnd about gaslighting too and I think that was going on. Ā I just look forward to the day when I No longer wonder about it. Ā  Ā And that will happen in time. Ā  I want time to hurry up….

    #275151
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    Anita. Ā He would tell me in those words, ā€œslow down…ā€ whenever I brought up a lie. Ā  And he would pause… I would pause and not even be talking … as time went on I realized he Always said that when he was trying to create more time to explain, rather lie more about why he was lying. Ā  Mark… no we are definitely apart. Ā No contact at all. Ā  What I am learning about myself is duh….. I have very if any boundaries for myself. Ā Red flags from the Start that I didn’t pay attention to. Ā  I’m a people pleaser. Ā  Always have been. Ā Emotionally unavailable mother and then went on to marry a narcissist and Then find myself in this sick situation. Ā  And I admit. Ā  This was the most confusing of all. Words and actions did Not match up and I ignored that. Ā And I made the mistake of Not trusting my gut. Ā  My gut was alarming me the entire time and I didn’t listen. Ā I have been reading a lot and diving into what I am doing wrong and it’s all about my boundaries. Ā  Ā Also. Ā  Ā The biggest thing for me and I can be told 100 x’s that he is a sick person or manipulative and all of it…. I cannot wrap my brain around the fact that people operate or think this way. Ā That’s why I reach out for advice on it because to me it just doesn’t make sense. Ā  And I so appreciate your words of wisdom. Ā  They are lifelines for me. Ā  Each day no contact I feel healthier but man…… that was something else.

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