Hi,

I have been there recently and by reading your post I felt very related. I understand your anxiety, but just remind yourself, as Anita said that this is only momentary, that it will go away. The beginning of dating someone is complicated. You don’t want to suffocate the other person, you want to find a space where you can navigate on your own and feel comfortable enough to let someone else inside your life. This will create an atmosphere for a healthy relationship. I would advise you to be patient, let him lead your first encounters and with a few more dates you will be able to know him better and know why he acts the way he acts. Do not ever think that he is not that into you, he is if you guys already kissed, but if you act like you are more into him that he is into you, that will scare him away. Try to see it on another perspective, think when someone is really really into you and you aren’t sure if you are that into them, you tend to run away…. maybe.

Cultivating patience is a skill that takes a lot of time but gives great results. When you are patient and learn to accept the perfect timing of things, everything that will come to you will feel natural and not forced. Hence, it will feel better and probably become a better experience. Try to learn to wait, to meditate and wait until the universe finds your energy so that the things that happen around you are meant to happen to you.

good luck,

J