Hi DCGC

you sound like a great guy. Gave her room to ‘mourn’ and probably put up with a lot trying to let her get past this. I’m am sorry for your heart ache. I know that being betrayed by someone you love is one of the most painful things to go thru.

My story is complicated but in summary. My ex husband had an emotional affair with his hs sweetheart. He swore up and down that they were just friends and when he called her he was just talking to his friend.  Although in my gut I knew he still was in love with her. The reality was he spent hours on the phone with her secretly, and we were having marital issues at the time.   Long story short, spent 4 years in marriage counceling and then recently got divorced. Within a month of our seperation he is now in a serious relationship with ‘his old friend’

I know u gave her 2 years of your life. Be happy u didn’t marry her or waste more of ur time w her. What lesson can u take away from it??  Were there red flags (she was unaffectionate etc). Make this a life lesson.  Let it be what betters you as a person!

I am still struggling with my feelings but I will be a better person because of it and so will you.  No regrets, only lessons. All I can say is that it takes a while to get past the pain and hurt. But eventually u will have more good days than bad and u will start looking at life as full of new opportunities. I wish u the best of luck in your journey!

Hi Ribecca,

why did he lie to you originally??  Probably because he thought you would be mad at him.  I think it’s good that he actually admitted it to you.. however don’t let this opportunity pass without having a long conversation about trust. Once the trust is gone the relationship is doomed. Nip this in the bud now if u want to have a future with him. Best of luck to u.