According to what I’ve learned so far, we must take absolute responsibility for every single experience we have/encounter.  This can be extremely difficult to grasp at times, especially when a person seemingly “does you wrong”.  I’ve been going through that myself lately, so believe me when I say I totally grasp the concept.  However, there is also a Freedom in in accepting that everything you encounter, you created.  Not consciously, of course.  But via our “split energies”, we sometimes end up creating precisely what we DIDN’T want.  What we all need to grasp, is the fact that we are POWERFUL CREATORS.  It’s never a matter of “right and wrong”.  It’s never a matter of “he said, she said”.  It’s ALWAYS a matter of what YOU, as your own life creator, draws into your life via your thoughts.  It so often SEEMS as if that other person is wrong……  But the only reason that other person is even THERE, is because YOU “conjured them up”.  One thing that might help is to understand that often, an issue you are dealing with may not even come from this particular lifetime!  We are Eternal Beings, and so we carry “stuff” with us, from lifetime to lifetime.  Absolutely everything we encounter is a Reflection of SELF.  Confronting someone will never, ever bring you peace.  (Which I’ve discovered the ‘hard way’.)  We always get more of whatever it is we focus on.  It’s a Spiritual Law.  The Universe ALWAYS gives you more of what you “ask” for, so if you place your focus on something unwanted, you will receive more of the unwanted.  Believe me, I KNOW how “annoying” that LAW can be!  The bottom line is that we all need to put as much thought and energy into what we WANT, as we possibly can.  Ignore the rest, for it doesn’t SERVE YOU.  You see?