I think you are jumping to conclusions. Perhaps he is depressed and gone into withdrawal until he sorts things out. His family may have dragged him to this event to try to cheer him up. Why not send him a nice email asking questions and telling him how you honestly feel without putting angry blame on him. What more have you got to lose? Maybe your pride is standing in the way of your happiness.

People in our culture often have more freedom to go out and meet a person and ‘fall in love’ but often it is just hormones at work, and when that phase is over after a while as it usually will be, they find that they don’t even like the other person, or that they are so different in ways of thinking and what they want in life, that they end up separating and even divorcing later if they have married. Arranged marriages can be awful or they can be wonderful depending on a lot of things. If both sets of parents are looking for someone for their child who will be emotionally suitable for them they can often be a better judge of who might be good for them then they would choose for themselves. But if they are picking a mate for selfish reasons, to enhance their own lives, then it’s just good or bad luck if you end up happy. An alternative way might be to talk on the Internet with someone for a long time to get to know each other very well, perhaps with the help of an introduction from a friend or matchmaker, before you meet in person. Then you could meet with a chaperone until you decide to take things further. There must be someone out there who is the female equivalent of you, who missed their chance in younger days to be wed or have a relationship, for whatever reason. Perhaps they dedicated themselves to caring for a sick relative, or a career for example, or they were really shy. Must be someone out there like that.