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  • January 2, 2016 at 6:47 am in reply to: Finding it hard to cope with my marriage break down #91165
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    Hello L

    Thank you for your kind and supportive words. Yes I know I deserve better and that this journey ahead will be a better life for me with/without a man. While I fear what is ahead, I am embracing it. Like yourself, mid-last year I had realised that I needed to start on the path of acceptance, forgiveness and letting go to heal properly. I was doing well – got a job promotion on my birthday, refurnished the house to what I wanted and took control of the property settlement which got signed off before Christmas.

    Finding out about this ‘other’ woman was a blow, as I thought he held the same values on marriage or held some respect for me as the mother of our two beautiful daughters to ‘wait’ until after the divorce. I’ve realised now that he is not the man I had married, that our values different.

    It will be a painful journey, but as long as I hold on to my values on this journey ahead, have self compassion on the emotions I feel, and lead the life I want to have, I know it will be all okay.

    I hope you’ve had a better day. Hugs to you. xx

    Jan

    December 31, 2015 at 9:40 pm in reply to: Finding it hard to cope with my marriage break down #91091
    Jan
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    Hello L

    I too am suffering from a broken marriage. Early last year, my husband of 14 years decided to end it all. We have been together for 18 years, we have two beautiful daughters. It has been a roller coaster of emotions, anger, grief, saddness and a lot of hurt. This intensified when I snooped on his email account on Christmas Eve that he had gone to Vietnam with another woman and that he has now moved on. I suffered this whole week through this one action and I take responsibility for that and I have apologised for my actions to him. We have both said hurtful things to each other but however I have held some hope that we could repair our marriage but now that he is in a developing relationship I have to accept my marriage is over.

    I love my husband so much and I fear the future ahead of me and that I won’t be loved again. I have the loving support of family and friends, they are my constant rock but it is hard to remain strong when your heart is still attached.

    Keep posting L, maybe we can support each other as we continue the roller coaster of mending a broken heart.

    Jan

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