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Inky, I always love your responses!! I jsut wanted to know that I wasn’t crazy. Ex and I are ok. We really don’t interact much on Facebook other than liking each other’s posts. Maybe a comment once in a while. Ex and I have known each other for a long time – since we were 15. We dated in high school. We went on a couple of dates when we were 22. We dated again about 6 years ago but it was bi-coastal and for various reasons didn’t work out. I was mad and him and then he was mad at me but through it all we remained friends and still care for one another; and up until he started dating her seriously we still talked occasionally. I really miss him. Anyway, just know that I agree with every point you are making. I don’t know how I would have reacted if the shoe were on the other foot so to speak. I agree about keeping myself busy this coming Saturday. I was not invited to the wedding – but then again, I really didn’t want to be. That would have been hard. Anyway, I like the don’t facebook them for at least a year idea. Thanks for taking the time to give me your thoughts. I really appreciate it!
LorraineParticipantThanks, all. I’ve always been a straight shooter so passive aggressive behavior really throws me off. But, I hear what you are all saying and I agree. I think I know deep down that it really isn’t about me in most instances but being human I do get bruised by this kind of behavior. Anyway, I will take your advice and send them love and pray for their journey as well as my own. Thanks again for taking the time to respond. You are all very wise.
LorraineParticipantBe authentic. No game playing. If you want to see him, reach out to him. Sometimes you just have to be the one to take a chance. If he’s worth the effort, he will respond with positivity. If not, well you got your answer. Wishing you the best.
LorraineParticipantHi Big Blue. Thank you so much for your support. I agree about removing all contact, just haven’t been able to muster the strength to do it yet. I see him on Facebook. I guess part of me just isn’t ready to completely let go. I would rather be able to change my thoughts and not care anymore. I am much better than I was – and maybe when he gets married in October that will be the final nail in the coffin and I will just let it go. This is what I am hoping for anyway.
Hi Tasha, it’s kind of amazing when we connect with people so deeply, even when they have issues or especially when they have issues. We know it’s no good for us and it’s going no where, but still it somehow feeds us. I hope someday you find and accept the love that you are seeking. Go find someone who isn’t taken. I always say if things are meant to be they will be and the universe will do everything in it’s power to make it happen. People are either blessings or lessons. I think this one may be a lesson for you.
LorraineParticipantInky, you are quite talented. I love that you made me a princess and my DH an unrecognized prince. And I agree with the Trickster and the Siren characters as well. I can’t even begin to tell you how much better you made me feel.
LorraineParticipantLol, I love it Inky. Great story!! I need to get my hands on a banishing spell so that I can feel nothing too. Can’t wait for that day!!!
LorraineParticipantInky and Matt, you are both very wise and I thank you so much for your responses. I too feel sorry for his soon-to-be-wife. I’m sure she has no idea what she is getting into. I am sure as heck not going to be the one to tell her. Inky, don’t worry about jacking my post. I am always up to hear about how others handled the same situation. In any event, your words do help. Matt, thank you so much for the matra and the explanation about first romances. It makes a lot of sense. I will use this matra religiously, I am sure it will help. My husband who is very intune to my moods, etc. already suspects that there is something going on with me. He doesn’t know what, but he has asked me numerous times if I’m okay. I usually tell him I am tired – which I am. But mostly just tired of feeling this way. The ex-boyfriend has taken up too much of my time and thoughts already. My husband is good about back massages when I need them and taking me out. That’s what makes this so frustrating. He has respected me more than my ex-boyfriend ever had and yet I am hanging on to this dream as you describe. The ex-boyfriend is codependent, wishy washy and adulterous. You so hit the nail on the head with this one!. I just want you both to know that I feel so much better with your advice. Thank you so much!
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