Inky, I always love your responses!! I jsut wanted to know that I wasn’t crazy. Ex and I are ok. We really don’t interact much on Facebook other than liking each other’s posts. Maybe a comment once in a while. Ex and I have known each other for a long time – since we were 15. We dated in high school. We went on a couple of dates when we were 22. We dated again about 6 years ago but it was bi-coastal and for various reasons didn’t work out. I was mad and him and then he was mad at me but through it all we remained friends and still care for one another; and up until he started dating her seriously we still talked occasionally. I really miss him. Anyway, just know that I agree with every point you are making. I don’t know how I would have reacted if the shoe were on the other foot so to speak. I agree about keeping myself busy this coming Saturday. I was not invited to the wedding – but then again, I really didn’t want to be. That would have been hard. Anyway, I like the don’t facebook them for at least a year idea. Thanks for taking the time to give me your thoughts. I really appreciate it!

Inky, you are quite talented. I love that you made me a princess and my DH an unrecognized prince. And I agree with the Trickster and the Siren characters as well. I can’t even begin to tell you how much better you made me feel.

Inky and Matt, you are both very wise and I thank you so much for your responses. I too feel sorry for his soon-to-be-wife. I’m sure she has no idea what she is getting into. I am sure as heck not going to be the one to tell her. Inky, don’t worry about jacking my post. I am always up to hear about how others handled the same situation. In any event, your words do help. Matt, thank you so much for the matra and the explanation about first romances. It makes a lot of sense. I will use this matra religiously, I am sure it will help. My husband who is very intune to my moods, etc. already suspects that there is something going on with me. He doesn’t know what, but he has asked me numerous times if I’m okay. I usually tell him I am tired – which I am. But mostly just tired of feeling this way. The ex-boyfriend has taken up too much of my time and thoughts already. My husband is good about back massages when I need them and taking me out. That’s what makes this so frustrating. He has respected me more than my ex-boyfriend ever had and yet I am hanging on to this dream as you describe. The ex-boyfriend is codependent, wishy washy and adulterous. You so hit the nail on the head with this one!. I just want you both to know that I feel so much better with your advice. Thank you so much!

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