I agree. It is difficult to get back into it. And I certainly know that feeling when you get overwhelmed and excited about another person and then scare them off with your intensity. I think yo got some good ideas here on this site about how to back off . Notice “the other” more. Look into their eyes when you talk with another. Notice when they are getting too much of you.
I used to hear this a lot “You’re too much” or “I need space from you” and it would hurt me till I realized yeah I was quite needy and neediness does scare people off. So what I did was I got a list together of about 30 people that I could invite to my home for a luncheon. We just had fun. After that I felt like I had about 30 people now that I could perhaps call my network, that I could call. This way I distributed my charms and my vibration . When alone, I tried to up my own vibration by singing. I am a musician and with a higher vibration and more peace in my soul, I did not come across so needy. And most of all, I learned to be my own best friend. When I am with others, it’s all about what can I do for this person or that, bringing joy to the event. So it’s not about me.