I agree. Â It is difficult to get back into it. Â And I certainly know that feeling when you get overwhelmed and excited about another person and then scare them off with your intensity. Â I think yo got some good ideas here on this site about how to back off . Â Notice “the other” more. Â Look into their eyes when you talk with another. Â Notice when they are getting too much of you.
I used to hear this a lot “You’re too much” Â or “I need space from you” Â and it would hurt me till I realized yeah I was quite needy and neediness does scare people off. Â So what I did was I got a list together of about 30 people that I could invite to my home for a luncheon. Â We just had fun. Â After that I felt like I had about 30 people now that I could perhaps call my network, that I could call. Â This way I distributed my charms and my vibration . Â When alone, I tried to up my own vibration by singing. Â I am a musician and with a higher vibration and more peace in my soul, I did not come across so needy. Â And most of all, I learned to be my own best friend. Â When I am with others, it’s all about what can I do for this person or that, bringing joy to the event. Â So it’s not about me.