Hello Anita,

Wow, how has it been so long since I last came on here!? Thank you for your message. How are you doing? I’m not bad thank you, the friend thing has taken a back seat at the moment though it still bothers me a bit. I’ve lost touch with another too now, I hope I still have some friends left! Work stress has taken over everything for a while, we have someone who is very bad for the team with his behaviour but no one to tell it seems. I hope you’re ok and doing well.

Take care

Irene74

Hello Anita,

I hope you’re ok! Yes a pandemic free world would be lovely, hopefully soon we’ll turn a corner 🙂

I think you’re right, I thought that she was a good friend but I think I was wrong and I am just one of many to her perhaps. It does still upset me to think about it but maybe the reclassifying is a very good idea.

Take care

Irene 74

Hello Anita,

I’m glad you’re feeling alright 🙂 This time of year has been stressful for us all for a few years as we work in support for a university for teaching. There’s always a rush to get things done for the new term and it always seems last minute. This year is worse as our management aren’t considering that we may be struggling too (what with the pandemic!) and our mental health doesn’t matter, just as long as we’re at work then that’s it!

Take care

Irene74

Thank you Anita (I can’t believe I didn’t reply to you, I’m very sorry!) I haven’t been on here in such a long time!

Take care and I hope you’re all well xx

Thanks Mark, yes exactly I wouldn’t refer to my friends as that so I’m not sure why she would! Negativity and a lack of integrity like you say! It’s weird because I actually remember her asking me on a night out when she was confiding in me if she was a nice person, I said yes but I really don’t know!

Thank you Inky, I know you’re right, she’s not really a real friend and yes I’ve considered she may be on team ex boyfriend too! She used to say things about how funny he is and what’s wrong with him! That’s a good idea about turning things around to her 😀 I really need to forget about her and like you say she probably won’t make much if any effort!

Thank you Anita, I think you’re right too…..I think maybe I need to go and do some activities where I can meet like minded people, I just feel sad about it as we’ve been friends for a long time, well I thought so! Also our mutual friend said that after I split up with my ex I changed, all that changed according to everyone else with me was I was much happier and perhaps didn’t drink as much! This hurt me and whilst we’re still friends and meet up I feel it hasn’t been the same since she said that, I’m doing well really aren’t I :-O

Take care x

Hi Salisha,

Thank you for replying to me, your advice is much appreciated and very helpful 🙂

I know what you’re saying is true it’s just at the moment I have trouble believing in myself and still feel bad for ending the relationship.

I know that it was the best thing to do and it’s what I wanted but I expected some relief. I know in time that will change, it’s still early days and we were together a long time!

I know I have a lot to look forward to and I should stop feeling bad, it took me a long time to build up the courage to speak to him! I need to stop getting upset too.

Friends couldn’t believe I’d finally done it. One even said I never would and I would put up with it forever, which wasn’t very good to hear. Sometimes people don’t understand I guess.

Thank you again 🙂