Hi anongirl:

Two months isn’t that long to get over someone, especially your “best friend”, and especially the way you ended things. I am not sure what happened, but it sounds like, for whatever reason, you decided that this is not someone you wanted in your life anymore at that particular time. Now you are having second thoughts because he called.

What if he didn’t call? Did you still think about him? And either way, do you think that this is someone you would want to have in your life again someday, if not as your boyfriend then as a supportive friend? Then maybe some more time is what you both need before starting fresh.

In my experience, thinking obsessively about stuff like this to the point of crying only makes it worse. I would encourage you to do things you love that puts you in your “flow state.” This is usually when the universe tends to guide you in the right direction and send you the answers you need. Free yourself of this mental trap you have created and allow the wisdom to shine in. Only you can decide what is the right decision for you. Just as a guy, please don’t hurt him anymore than necessary as you decide.

• This reply was modified 8 years, 4 months ago by Mark.