Hi Bonnie,

I know the feeling you are having and I also know so many wonderful women out there have the same feeling about themselves as you. First of all I would like to tell you that you are a wonderful and beautiful person and deserve honest and true love in your life. This is a fact and this is what you should think about yourself and repeat that every morning when you wake up! 🙂 I’m doing it myself and it works, it makes me feel more relaxed when it comes to relationships and makes me feel positive about myself. It seems that I cannot find the right one and every time I meet someone new it just goes in a bad and deceiving way. But what I realized is that through my bad perceiption of myself I attracted those situations in my life that would just confirm what I was already thinking. If I look back now and realistically look at the guys I chose, I can see that it was not meant to be from the beginning. It is really true that you are what you think you are and therefore attract exactly what will resonate with that thought or believe.

I am still not in a relationship, but I know feel fine about it, because I learned how to love myself just the way I am and that begins with treating myself with respect and to don’t allow anyone to do me no harm, to say no if it is needed and to release persons of my life who are not positive for me. It is not easy in the beginning but with time you will feel that you are free, when you clean up your life from negativity, from wherever it comes from and speak up for yourself; Try to indentify if you are acting in the way you want to act or if you are doing things that are expected from you. These are the steps to give love to yourself, treat yourself well just the way you want to be treated, don’t accept things that don’t feel right just for the sake of beeing with someone and you will see the more self respect you build up, the more self confidence will shine through you and will attract different kind of people and experiences and the negative voices in your head will stop. These voices are not you! They can come from former situations where we were hurt. I went to a healing session where we tryed to find out where these negative voices inside of me came from and the thing is to try to remember where we first had that feeling, try to remember who gave us that feeling in the first place and to forgive and release it. I’m not a fan of medication because it does not treat the root problem and what worked for me was to beeing able to talk to someone trained in Theta Healing, so I could release it and stop the program that was running inside of me.

But it always starts with changing your thoughts. Imagine the perfect love situation , in all details and how it feels to be truly loved and feel secure. Repeat that as often as you can and also don’t forget to feel thankful for that as well, just as if it is already there. What I did was also to have a little corner in my room where I burn a candle every night and to feel thankful for all that is positive in my life and for that love that will come my way and to send a mental message to the one that I am ready to meet him and give him my love. Paint a picture, put a photograph on your wall, write a song or a poem about it…Whatever helps you to visualize it , just do it! 🙂

If you like you can buy yourself a rose quartz, which is a very gentle healing crystal that will help heal wounds of your heart and let go of negativity.
I wish you all the best and that love shines on your way ! You can get there! if you don’t believe in yourself , who else will do then? 🙂
Namaste