Hi Anonymous03,

Ain’t nobody got time to be his mama. 🙂 Thank you for your input, I think you’re absolutely right that we are probably not as deep into this relationship as I thought. If it weren’t for Covid, we’d see eachother much less and wouldn’t spend that much time in his home or mine.

Going to have an open an honest conversation and see where that leads us. Thank you!

Hi TeaK!

No, I have not moved into his place. Agreed that it would be way too soon. I only meant when I am there I cook, clean (after making a mess in the kitchen). We had decided to date exclusively when I found the photos of another woman. To me, if he is engaging and not shutting it down it’s cheating. I’ve spoken to him about it and explained that I didn’t feel like he was honoring our relationship or me while he was flirting with another woman via text. He agreed that if it were the other way around, it would be unacceptable and that he wouldn’t stand for it either. We have each gained some clarity and I’d like to move on from it.

Your line of thinking makes total sense and I think that I have exaggerated my place in his life in my own head and perhaps taking some pause and a few steps back might not be a bad idea.

I love this forum so much because of the objectivity and the support.

THANK YOU!

Hi Michelle: Thank you so much for your help. I ended up breaking up with him over text. Unbelievable. He wouldn’t call me back to discuss an upcoming visit. His choosing to lie, steal, and stonewall is closure enough for me. I’m out. 🙂

Hi Anita,

It had been a month, and he was feeling guilty. He had finally found the courage to tell me that he’d been sneaking alcohol behind my back. There were not any concrete answers from him.