Hey Anita

Soo I told you before right that before that unloving stage I had 2 thoughts that were just lingering in my head 1) if everything was a lie. 2) If she is talking to someone else or maybe his ex-bf.

I got sooo depressed at that time I just told her that I am suffering through all of this. Can you answer my questions or doubts that I had when I thought the whole family thing was a lie coz I didn’t have any real proof that thing happened. But I had some things that just didn’t made sense.

So I asked and she denied but I told that this happened that you were using insta coz you viewed someone’s story just after her parents caught her for the 6th time.

She denied and just got soooo angryyy on mee that how can I ask questions and all to her. I said I am doing this coz it will be better for us coz I just can’t sleep bcoz of this. I said sorry okay I won’t ask But she got sooooo mad. I kept on explaining and like at the end of the day it got better. My questions weren’t answered but I tried to forget it.

And about the next thing what happened was she said she was sleeping but the next morning I saw that a post is liked from her account when she said she was sleeping.

I just asked her ki did you wake up during night or something like if you did then okay. But she said I didn’t I told that there was a post that was liked during the time you were sleeping.
she said Idk maybe someone else was using her phone during night.
it just didn’t made sense but I tried not to discuss and just left but I couldn’t stop thinking. Later that day I sais ki how did this happen like I don’t understand She said that yes I asked them they were sleeping in my room and they unlocked my phone. I said ummm okayy. But she got angryyy that how can I ask all of this I just said that my mind was revolving around it I just asked and then done but she got angry alot alot angry. I told her that I am going through this stuff please help me out here. But she just was talking soooo rude to me I couldn’t take it I just went in my bathroom and started crying I didn’t tell her but I vomitted like it was bad she was not angry by then.

I just told her I didn’t say anything to you I am nit blaming you I just asked and done and for that you are torturing me don’t do that please.

she said she’s sorry and after that it was done.

Days passed and I was going through that unloving phase. I didn’t tell her this I just told her after some days that I have OCD probably and she said that yes maybe I just told please help me with it my brain really needs help and just if something comes in my mind I am not blaming you I just want to cleat it soo answer me instead of torturing me. She said yes okayy.

Then next day a boy that was interested in her texted her he was knowing that she has broke up with her ex bf. Soo he reminded her that remember I proposed you and stuff. She said to her I am not ready now for and won’t soon stay happy stay single.

She told me that he knew from somewhere else that she has broken up. I said okay like okay okay nothing wrong.

Then after an hour I got a call from somewhere that she told that guy about her breakup like he wanted to confirm the reason. I was like she told?? I was knowing that he has known from some other source coz she told me this. But it turned out she was the one telling. I got screenshots of her telling which I was not knowing about. She told that guy just last night like 12 hours ago. I asked her again in some way that how did he know, She was like leave na. I just sent her the ss of her telling like for me she is clearly lying due to some reason.

She replied I didn’t remember telling him I am telling many people and she got angryyy and just started questioning me that how did I got that ss I said I didn’t ask anyone Somebody sent me but she just started again torturing me. I said okay you didn’t remember I mean that just didn’t made sense but I just said okayy and tried to calm her down. She wasn’t calming down she just started torturing me and talking rude to me.
I kept on explaining that I agree and I wasn’t spying on you I didn’t ask for it someone send me coz he wanted to confirm. Things got bad but it got okay.

Things weren’t making sense and there were many things that didn’t. But I just tried to forget it and have a good time. But the thing that she is lying I thought that alot alot about many stuff It was getting hard for me. But I didn’t say her anything cause it was making it worse.

She was sleeping alot more she was going on calls a lot more. Her cell was coming busy but she just denied that I wasn’t on a call it maybe a but It wasn’t a bug I was sure coz I called 2 times and both times it was busy. I agreed but it didn’t made sense I was just thinking alot.

My anxiety was getting worse. I got angry on her that she slept again after sleeping 10 hours even after I told her that I am sad I want to talk I am suffering I want to talk. But she slept reading the chats in 2 minutes. I got angry on that I agree I was wrong I apologised to her many time but she was sooo sooo rude and just made things worse for me but okay while sleeping it got a little better and after all of that I said that I am concerned about you backing off cause you are committing by just words like you can backoff easily and you have backed out once before If you back you I won’t be able to do anything She again promised that dw I am with you I don’t break promises and all I was like okay but try if you can give some real surety like I am changing my future plans for eg that is a surety like even a small thing was okay

Th next day again she was sleeping till late and my mind was wondering and I just checked something that was going around my mind. That the time she was telling about his ex bf to the other guy. I checked that what the time relates to in my side like what did she told me when she talked. I checked and I got that the period she wastalking to the other guy was when she told me she is sleeping for more 10-20 minutes I said okay like text when uou wake up.

My anxiety rose sooo much like she was talking to someone saying that I am sleeping like I just couldn’t trust anymore. But I peacefully asked for the chat and timings like I wanted to confirm but she asked why and when I told she just backed out. Blaming me that I am going into depression because of you and all of that. No commitments.

Current update: She told everything to her parents and her parents are angry at me, so does she say. I do not believe her if this were the case they wouldn’t let her talk to me and she is still conversing with me and blaming mee for everything that I am forcing her to commit and stuff. I said I will obviously opposed coz this was soooo sooo much wrong to me like backing out like thiss I will oppose obviously but after that I even tried to find some solutions. But she is blaming me.

And for the past 3-4 days I have been doubting that maybe she started talking with her ex-bf and now I am 99% sure that she has. I am really wishing that I tell her ex-bf everything. i dont know what to doo now I don’t trust her. Did she really do wrong to me the whole time and used me as a rebound and talking to her ex again? That’s just sooo bad to me. Please helppppp

Well ummm Update.

I came over that thought in my head Regarding my unloving thanks to this community.
But it was again replaced by some other concern like maybe she’s lying and that used to eat my brains. But I was dealing with it the best I could.

Giving her a nice time and everything was going very good.
But since 2 days, there have been some problems like uk discussions and it got normal back again.

But yesterday I found some out that appeared to be a lie. So before blaming or anything I just asked for that particular information from her. And she wasn’t giving, she kept asking why. I then told her the exact thing because this isn’t okay and I want to see if you did or not.

She then broke off. She said she doesn’t have that information she deleted it and then she started blaming me to stop peeping in her life its her life stop interfering it.

I discussed that I just ask for a piece of information nothing more like that thing wasn’t okay.

She then just backed off the commitment. Saying she is too young for the commitment. She will commit when she wants now if you wanna stay then be friends.
After all I have gone through because of her in the past 2 years(detailed above) this didn’t seem okay.

She started acting like there is no love between us there is nothing there hasn’t been anything. Our whole thing was based on her commitment.

This thing was my concern for the longest time that if she backs out I won’t be able to dating it. After all her commitment was just words just promises.
Even like 15 hours before all of this she expressed her commitment that I don’t break promises why are you thinking I am here I won’t go anywhere ever.

I changed my plans for my future studies due to her as she wasn’t able to join along.

After the past 2 years and soooo much of this she is saying now she can’t commit.
Whenever I am making any valid points she just comes back to her point saying you can’t force me to commit.

She is okay if se stopped talking.
And I just can’t cant go through it. I can’t accept it. After sooo much and sooo many things sooo much pain in the past 2 years and when it got better she is backing out of her promises.

She is saying that I am making her depressed by not listening.

I can’t sleep I cannot do anything. I am having problem breathing. But she is not listening a word.
Please Anita and everyone reading this I beg guidance.

Dear Anita:

Thank you for your help Anita, I will check all the stuff out 🙂

If you don’t mind I want to ask one last thing. Why does it feel difficult to experience the same love again, to feel the same that I felt a week ago. Why can’t I feel it, Its like it’s difficult for me to think about all the things I used to think and imagine it and what to do about it?