Hi Helcat,

Hi Anita,

I would like to share more detail about my situation:

My first relationship ended because she decided to move back to her hometown permanently. At the time, I had a full-time job in the city, so we attempted a long-distance relationship for a while, but it ultimately didn’t work.

During this long-distance phase with my first ex, I met my previous ex-fiancée (the second broken engagement). Looking back, I realize I wasn’t fully committed to her. I often found myself stuck in a cycle of reminiscing about my past relationship and couldn’t fully move on emotionally. This ultimately led to her calling off the engagement.

Now about the current relationship: I can share that I tend to be attracted to women who have a more balanced or curvy figure. Unfortunately, I haven’t felt that physical spark with my current petite frame and minimal bust girlfriend, and it’s impacting our intimacy. Because bringing up my physical preferences feels selfish, I haven’t been able to communicate this openly with her. While I encouraged her to consider some lifestyle changes, I understand these things can be heavily influenced by genetics. I want to support her health in a way that feels right for her, not just for me.

I believe my biggest challenge lies in my perspective or outlook, along with my ability to accept and move on from what cannot be changed.