I hope we’re still okay. I “feel” that you are not comfortable with these Buddhist topics and I now understand that you are probably not a lay Buddhist like me, which I really don’t want to bother you with.

I’m going to retreat from tinybuddha for a few days to clear my mind, get some new energy and also prepare for the winter – there’s a lot to do outside.

Take care! 🙂

Compassion is not pity or self-sacrifice.☀️

“I’m curious, do you remember ever consciously choosing the good path?

My initial reason was not necessarily a good one, but it was very effective. I simply didn’t want to become like the person who hurt me.”

Now I’m not sure what you mean. Do you mean it in the context of the path to Buddhism or my practical life?

I especially like this part and can relate to that: “The way I see things, bad things can set life on a unique path in which good things can later follow (sometimes years later). I have had some very difficult experiences, but without them I would never have met my husband or given birth to my son.”

I think that the first part of my life wasn’t easy for me at all. But because I didn’t turn to evil – I didn’t become the same person as the people who hurt me and I didn’t fall into alcoholism – I got this “reward” (my boyfriend, our peace, …) in my present life. And it makes a perfect sense, doesn’t it. But many people still do not understand this and go down the same path of evil.

I know the theme of attachment very well. And even though I don’t have unhealthy attachment to my boyfriend – as I realize that one day one of us will die – I believe deep in my heart that we will meet again in next life. 🙂

Thank you for letting me know about the article View of Interpersonal Karma. I’ll check it!

“I can’t change the karma that I created in the past lives but I can be aware of what I am creating now.”

I agree. I think that Karma can also be a source of suffering for some people who do not understand it properly or they interpret it as a “destiny” or “punishment” for unwholesome actions made in the past life. We cannot place the blame on Karma and give up our responsibility for our lives and good/bad actions.

These “deja vu” moments, which you mentioned, are also interesting. Who knows if it is really only a vivid imagination or spiritual experience. But you are right and I definitely agree – the most important is the present moment, here and now, and the effort to create good karma for all of us.

Hello Anita again. 🙂

Thank you for your advice and supportive words. I must say I find you inspiring and strong. Your life is certainly not easy with these disorders, but with your good attitude and effort it is certainly much more joyful.

I look forward to more discussions with you. 🙂

Hello Chris,

I would like to thank you for your answer and kind words, too. I must say that you seem to be a very wise soul… almost enlightened, I would say. 🙂

“Only you should have control of your emotions. The hurt is in your own interpretation of their attacks. If you observe how they’re just programmed to behave this way and watch them play it out, instead of feeling hurt or attacked, you may just feel sympathy for them having such little awareness of themselves.”

– I think I understand your words very well here. It is a bit harder to put these wise thoughts into practical life, but I am working on it. The fact is that if I find myself in a situation when I have to defend myself, I feel a bit guilty when I do so… a bad program in my head, bad ego… but I don’t want to change, I mean, I like thsi sensitive part of my personality… I am able to feel the joy in daily activities, in life… and I think it is because of my sensitive, spiritual part… I don’t want to kill it in me… but I guess I still don’t have control over some of my emotions.