Hi Silent Rossi

If you stand on a street and ask people out you will disproportionate volume of rejections. Rarely, will women say yes in that scenario. It depends what things are like in your area. Speed dating can be a good option. Or if there are any meet ups for friendship, or hobby groups it might be a good idea to develop these things more organically. There is always online dating.

Because of the economy people are living with their parents in their 30s unless they have a partner or roommates. I don’t think there is any shame in being a student. Would you be interested in part time work on the side?

Personally, I think dating people who are going through challenging circumstances is a good way to get a sense of their personalities. There is e a saying that you don’t know what someone is truly like until you’ve lived with them and seen them experience hardship.

I think the thing you might get the most judgement for from potential partners at your age is being a virgin (depending on culture). But you don’t necessarily have to divulge that personal information.

My advice is to work on socialising in general. Make some good friends and you never know, you might meet someone you like. Plus this is a good way to get to know people and screen out abusive types. The downside to this method is it takes time. Actively dating you will meet more potential partners, but the quality can be iffy.

Hi Arie

Sorry, I think I actually misread something that lead me to falsely believe that he left shortly before the marriage was arranged. I have memory issues and it is hard to keep track sometimes.

It sounds like there is a lot going on. However it turns out, I hope you get some closure.

Hi Arie

It occurred to me, that in a traditional relationship (only) 3 months. Hooking up is pretty normal. You’re both really strangers. In my opinion, what made him run was the idea of getting married after 3 months. Would you be open to slowing things down and having a more traditional relationship where you take the time to get to know each other without the pressure of legal commitments at such an early stage?

Hi Eric!

Sorry I was taking a break from tiny buddha.

It sounds like you have been very busy! I was glad to read that you are working on developing new skills and hobbies. Spoke to a member at the gym and became interested in a girl.

It sounds like you are making healthy decisions regarding no longer pursuing that girl since she hasn’t shown interest.

Regarding the graphic design. There may be local charities who need help with graphic esign, if you don’t mind volunteering. It’s a good way to build a portfolio.

You are right, relationships and finding a partner are very tricky. But not impossible!

Something that has been helping me recently is visualising what I want to happen in detail.
Apparently, it triggers the same brain cells etc as if you were doing the task.

I am learning to drive at the moment. I have been learning for a couple of years now, but I have a learning difficulty that makes it more difficult to do so.

I have been making notes of mistakes that I make after lessons and visualising doing the action correctly. I find that this practice has been helping. I’m finally at the stage where I’m preparing for my practical test.

We learn by making mistakes, but it can lead to success!

Hi Neha Gupta

What a wonderful analysis. I’m wondering, what kind of family do you have? Is there anything that you would like to discuss?

The world can be cruel and full of injustice. By the time we are adults many of us have suffered in one way or another. It can be rare to meet people that care about being consistently kind to others. More often you meet people that are kind sometimes, other times not so much. Or people that take glee from treating others poorly.

Personally, I like to be away from family drama and keep to myself. I’m certainly much happier when I do so. I much prefer the company of consistently kind people.

Hi David

Spiritual practices, practiced without guidance can lead to issues such as psychosis, chi sickness, Shen / the mind breaking -whatever your prefer to call it. My advice, stop whatever practice you are doing. Seek a mental health professional for advice. When you are recovered seek a teacher so that you can practice safely.

If you are taking any mental health medication or have withdrawn from it that could explain any electrocution sensations. Then again, these sensations could be related to whatever is going on. Visiting a TCM practitioner might be a good idea too if you feel that your energy is out of balance.

Hi JemJem

I’m sorry to hear that you’re in a sticky situation.

I have a question. It sounds like Emma and Tara have been friends for a few years. Why is it now bothering you to the point of ending the friendship with Emma. I’m curious as to what changed?

You mentioned telling Emma about Tara’s bullying. Did you ever directly ask her to stop seeing Tara and explain how uncomfortable their relationship makes you?

I think the answer to these questions might give you some idea about how to handle the situation.

Hi Ivygrl!

Sorry for the extreme delay in the reply. I was taking a break from tiny buddha. I don’t really use social media, apart from imgur. My username for that is: usernamealgorithm

I understand what you mean about stress and burn out. I think managing this is a lifelong challenge. It is okay to take breaks when you need them. Taking the time to do relaxing activities is important. It sounds like you are trying really hard! Things will still be okay if you scale back the effort say 10%. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes and that is okay. Making mistakes is part of learning. When we make mistakes we can reflect on it and recognise what isn’t working, what is and then we try other things which can lead to success.

I think your dreams are very achievable. I’m sure that you will go to college and do things on your own. You are already writing so I definitely see you pursuing that as a career. Travelling to South Korea sounds amazing.

The only thing that I would add is that it can take a while to become a professional writer. So it’s important to have an additional career plan for saving up money in the meantime.

What steps do you think you will need to do to begin to work towards your goals?