Hi Jamie,
I feel for you and I am very sorry for you or anyone who has shared time with a sociopath. After reading and reading to find a positive way to interact with my sons x-girlfriend, and mother of his infant son, I know that a complete cutting off is best. However, in your situation, he is pursuing you in a way that forces you to deal with him. My son’s situation forces him to be at his x’s mercy. I have many horrific stories I can share of what she has done to my son. From filing restraining order to giving birth and my son has still not been able to see his baby boy.
What I have read is that the only thing that will stop a sociopath from victimizing you is when the fun is over with you and they find a new victim. The best book I have read is Dr. Phil’s book titled, “Life Code.” Please read this book.
The other thing is to “Out” them. Find ways to expose their tactics to people that they wouldn’t want to know what they’re really about.
Sociopaths have no conscience. They have no empathy. They feel no guilt or shame, they just switch to a new victim. They will play their therapist. They’re very skilled at manipulating. It is a dangerous relationship to be in or to be parented by a sociopath.
I have lived my life to give love to evil and Love always conquers evil. I taught all 4 of my children this same value. The problem is that I didn’t know how to identify these types of people and to prepare myself or my children to be cautious, or that these people really exist. We are all givers in our family and she saw my son and our entire family as a huge win. She is driving my son into a mental breakdown. He cries for hours everyday. He begs her to see and hold his son. She’s in heaven having so much power.
This book Dr. Phil wrote is a must in teaching us a new code to live by.
I continue to conquer evil with good! My values haven’t changed, I just am aware of the signs of behavior that I must avoid for safety. I hope you are able to share your experiences with others so that more people become aware that sociopaths are very skilled and we must be mindful.
I hope the best for you!!