Hi Anita,

I have an update I’d like to share:

We have talked about it and he didn’t want to continue the relationship with me even though we both still care about each other. He feels that it’s hard to continue because our situation like locations, family and religion made it very hard to continue. So I respected his decision, I don’t want to push him if he doesn’t believe that we can do it. I still love him very much and we both wish each other well.

I feel like I won’t feel love like that anymore. Maybe I’m too negative I don’t know, but I never felt loved like that before. Someone that I can really open up and be comfortable. I can be more like myself with him even more than with my own family.

But anyway I’m glad that we both can talk about it and have closure. I’m going to make this as a learning experience and hopefully I can become a better person. Just that sometimes it’s hard to stay positive and be optimistic about the future and myself.

Hi Anita, thanks for replying.

I will talk to my parents about us and try to make them understand our position. I’ve done my research and marriage between two religion is possible. Or if one of us have to switch religion then I’m ok with that. I do believe that my parents will understand my point of view even though I know that it will be hard for them to understand at first. I still want to try and inform this to my parents because if I don’t try then I will never know.

Also my point is that even when you are married and in the same religion it doesn’t guarantee that you will have successful marriage anyway. I feel like both side need to work together. Also his dad changed his religion to marry his mom and the marriage was not good, so I think he will understand when I say that we still can work this out even if we both believe in different religion.

Beside this obvious challenge, I do really love him. I don’t know if his feeling towards me has changed, but I do love him.

Dear Anita and Michelle,

I think I’m going to search my feelings to find the truth. Maybe my judgement was clouded.

Thank you for taking your time to reply and giving suggestions. I really appreciate that.

Hi Anita, thank you for responding. I really appreciate it!

Yes, I’m willing to marry him regardless of the religious difference. I know that we will have problems with both of our parents, but I’m willing to go through that with him. He was willing to do so previously, but I wasn’t. I was always the more logical person in the relationship. And now when I’m finally ready, he feels that his heart is already broken and having a hard time trusting me.

I have not discuss this with my parents but I know they won’t agree because they did find out I was dating him in the early stages of my relationship and did not approve. But we were still together regardless of that.