Hi Michelle

I think I just want to maintain a friendship- I know it doesn’t come across like that but I just recently lost my nan so I’m scared of losing another person right now if that makes sense. We resolved the part about the boundaries, he was more that happy to carry on the friendship and doing want we do. I messaged him asking how he was, then wished him merry Christmas and last message was an apology. I sent them messages to make sure he knew I was there for him and appreciated.

The unhealthy part is I isolated myself away from my other friends which i have been trying to change.

Hi Anita

Right now I just want him to talk to me and just carry on being friends. I ended up panicking and sending him the message I wrote yesterday but I’m just being careful not to send anymore

Also should I mention something about how I spent time with him because I enjoyed it and not because I wanted something from him? I know we’ve argued before because my over thinking but don’t want him to think I forced myself to do it

Hi Anita

Thank you, you’ve helped a lot.

I’ll wait a few days and then send it

Thanks!

Hi Anita

Yes that’s right- a lot of messages about my problems. I would ask him how he was. We had an argument on Friday night, he was very and nearly stopped talking to me. He told me the whole three years we had known each other it was one sided.

We semi resolved it on Saturday and had a one message exchange on Sunday morning. I then sent a follow up message on Sunday evening asking him how he was etc, and then another message yesterday wishing him merry Xmas.

Thanks

Hi

I need to write this guy an apology letter, he seems underappreciated but I want him to know he’s not. My problem is a send him a lot of messages sometimes and they lose there meaning. I’ve already sent him three messages- is it ideal to go ahead and send it then wait or give him time to respond? Such a silly question but don’t want to sabotage again

Thanks

Hi Anita

Sorry should have said meet up in person as I think it’s time? Don’t want to force it though considering what i told him.

He said he was still ok with doing things as usual and wanted to carry on as feelings aside it was nice to bond with someone like that.

Should I let him ask him from now on or initiate doing things myself? I’m probably over thinking the whole thing but I don’t want him to think I did spent time with him because I wanted something else from him.

Thanks, H

He’s definitely not married ( we have a mutual friend which is how we started talking). When I say family I’m referring to his niece he has to look after.

Thank you!