Hi Anita

Yeah I understand, however she had blocked me on everything- the only way I contacted her was via email and wasn’t sure if she was getting them so our mutual friend told me I could ask her boyfriend just to tell her to check her email (not sure if she was reading them). She had told my mutual friend the reason she was talking to me, who then told me over the xmas period. I did send her another email yesterday, asking to meet up and talk it out… and I agree, it should remain between the two us

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Hi Anita

Hope you’re well 🙂

I recently reached out to my best friend, she had stopped talking to me because of some misunderstanding we had. Not spoken for 7 months. I messaged her boyfriend over christmas to see if she was reading my messages but nothing yet. Should I reach out again? Any advice regarding this?

Hi Anita

Yes in some ways he does. He feels like marrying my mum and having kids sabotaged his career progression.

Relationship with parents is quite up and down as again he blames them for holding in back but when In reality a person is responsible for their own choices and actions?

Also, Happy New year!! Hope this year is better than the last one.

Yes that’s right! I remember once I was hungover lol and my friend(online) wanted to have dinner but I had already had mine. The whole day after I asked him if I had him angry or if he was annoyed with me a few times.

Not sure what they were angry about. All I knew was that they were always angry growing up.

Harminder

Yeah that’s right, I avoid topics that I don’t want to talk about and focus on other things more.

Yeah for someone go give me their undivided attention without being present physically reduced the pressure of everything. It felt easy. So I could put on weight and not be judged. The more I was criticised before by family members, the more I started to critique myself which became a vicious circle.

I’m not entirely sure what bothered him. I guess when I was born he didn’t want another kid?  He also started resenting me for over achieving in academia- he thinks I somehow sabotaged my brothers education.

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Hi Anita

Yes I agree it’s definitely like a constant itch that causes me a lot of distress. Like if don’t ask the same question three times or more I won’t be calm. I’m gonna try this from now and not give in to temptation. I guess I have to go through being anxious in order to overcome the urge. Thanks for the tips! I’m glad it went away for you as well.

Yes so I went through a lot of emotions with my family. Was always verbally abused on birthdays and in general which stuck with me. Developed eating disorders as well as family would constantly criticise the way I looked etc.

I have a random question:

My best friend and I from university haven’t spoken since June. Initially I though it was me always bothering her with the same things but a mutual friend told me that some girls we both knew (didn’t particularly like me lol) had been telling her I had said some things about her. She must have been angry at me for messaging her on holiday and this just added to it. I emailed her last week telling her it wasn’t true and explained everything but nothing yet. I even contacted her bf, just to let her know I was thinking of her. Any advice on what to do?

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Hi Anita

My friend recently called me selfish as I’m not aware of how my behaviours affect others, did explain my thinking process though. Another friend last year blocked me because I always needed constant validation and reassurance and he thought I was neglecting him

I can’t remember when it first started, been really bad over the past four years though. As to why I guess…whenever I end up finding someone that likes me as a friend, I kind of end up loving that person so much it sucks the energy out of them by asking the same things over and over again. I think it’s because I’m scared that if I don’t make the effort they’ll forget about me and hate me and if they don’t message me back in a certain time frame, I assume they no longer want to he friends. I then end up asking loads of questions.

Hope it makes sense

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Hi Michelle

Yeah the I didn’t really help myself with theinstagram thing and I probably was a bit jealously but did immediately get over myself by deleting the app.

I understand, I won’t send him anymore messages and let him respond as I don’t want to sabotage the friendship. Feels clearer know. Thanks for your honesty.