When he was affectionate, it wasn’t sexual. Just hugging and cuddling. It was very sweet. And he hasn’t contacted me at all but he’s been watching my social media stories. I feel so upset. I was starting to really like him and want to open up more. And I’m not completely against not being serious because I enjoy his company a lot. I’m just hurt because he told me a while ago that he hates the idea of people ghosting but I feel like that’s what he’s doing to me and I’m s confused. From what I’ve gathered in the time we’ve known each other, he’s very straightforward so I’m confused as to why he just won’t tell me he’s not into me anymore.

@anita, well we hung out recently and everything was great! The next day, he wasn’t responding even though I saw he opened my message. I messaged him being like sorry if my texts are overwhelming and he said it’s just hard to text all day and I understand but he hasn’t been texting me at all like he would after work and now nothing. He said this is a difficult week but I feel like he’s upset with me or I did something.

I appreciate my friendship but it’s causing me too much anxiety. I don’t want to hurt anyone. I don’t know what I’d even say. And I will let you know!

Hi Anita! Thank you for your last reply, Ive been thinking a lot about it for the past month. My paranoia was better for a bit but now its back and hard to deal with. I met someone I really like and I want to pursue something with him eventually even though we’ve only hung out once so far. There’s another guy that has feelings for me but I only see him as a friend, I dont ever see myself liking him and he and I have hung out a few times but I’m just not feeling it. I’ve been paranoid that both of them know each other (theres zero proof. they dont have mutual friends or anything) and its making me want to not talk to anyone. Like if i’m nice to the guy Im friends with but dont like and then the guy I like reads my text but doesnt respond, I’m like “what if its bc i was nice to my guy friend?” and i get paranoid.

@anita, there is something that has triggered my paranoi that I would love to discuss with you but I’m scared about posting it.

@anita, so many experiences! Friends turning against me to bully me, friends taking the bully’s side. And once I began dating, I had a pattern of toxic relationships with men who mistreated me or used me. I tend to be very mistrusting but, ironcally, still let people in. I’m not sure what to do. Even just posting on here makes me very afraid. I wonder “what if one of the people on here knows whoever my post is about and will let them know?” it’s a very scary place-my mind.