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  • June 6, 2017 at 8:20 am #152102
    Hang Do
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    Hello Anita, Inky and Eliana,

    I would like to thank you all for your advice. I have wondered if I love him and my answer is Yes. I know through my post, it was not enough to describe about this guy. I have confided in him and I had my answers for most of my questions. I understood why he behaved like this or that. He had been cheated 9 times in the past and grew up with a harsh father. The more I know him, the more I love him. When I asked him if he loves her, he was confused for some seconds then said Yes. But I after that still showed him my sentiment because I simply don’t like to hide my emotion. I told him I love him not because I wanted him to make a choice or expect him to chose me but just wanted him to know that. Even right now, I no longer feel jealous. If he doesn’t chose me, I would get disappointed but after all his happiness is the what important to me even if it is not me.

    I am now not doing anything ( not stalking his FB, messaging him or anything ) but let things happen naturally. What will we, will be.

    I really appreciate your help. Have a nice day, wonderful girls!

    Hang

    July 27, 2016 at 12:53 am #110656
    Hang Do
    Participant

    Dear Anita,
    Today, to find the peace, I went to the pagoda and now I am at it. This pagoda is famous for both Vietnamese and foreigners. I sit here and observe people. A bit chaos inside of me. I cried a couple of times, didn’t care if people around looking at me. I am staying here for about 2 hours. I feel peaceful and maybe that’s enough for me now.

    July 26, 2016 at 10:33 am #110591
    Hang Do
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    My lesson is:
    – Should not believe in the men on dating site
    – Should not be so friendly for the first day
    – Should not be intimate with them easily
    – Should not be so nice with them
    ….
    I need to learn more dear Anita!

    July 26, 2016 at 10:03 am #110586
    Hang Do
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    He is now in another city for working there but his gifriend is still living in his house in his city.
    What you said is right despite of it’s so hurt. I was so naive and easy. I was wrong. I am disappointed of myself that after the Irish guy, I still have not learnt a lesson.
    Thank you Anita!

    July 26, 2016 at 8:30 am #110573
    Hang Do
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    Was it just momentary thoughts of him because he didnt want to far away from me?

    July 26, 2016 at 8:25 am #110571
    Hang Do
    Participant

    The last morning we were together, he asked me if I want to be a nurse and I should travel to Florida. Then I told him, it’s pretty hard for a single Vietnamese girl like me to do that ( I have no raletives in the US nor big amount of money in bank account etc.) He thought I was talking about money from people in the US, he said he does have money and he could write an invitation letter for me.
    With what he said above plus his emotional eyes ( almost cry), I was so touching and felt he wanted to be with me. Am I right or wrong?

    July 26, 2016 at 8:18 am #110570
    Hang Do
    Participant

    Dear Anita,
    I know I am intolerant. I need to accept the truth that we cannot make it but from the bottom of my heart I wanna be with him.

    July 26, 2016 at 7:41 am #110562
    Hang Do
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    Dear Anita,

    Today my mood is a bit worse than yesterday. I am so mad for myself. Why i cannot bear this? I don’t wanna eat or do anything but lying all day and crying. But i even get tired of crying. I cannot cry much as when i was new to love. I miss him, hate him and am mad for him a lot. He is now enjoying his holiday while i have to depress myself like this? Who knows he is with some girl now?
    I just feel so hard to accept the truth. I used to date other men when i wanted to forget someone. I know it was rediculous but it worked. Should i use that way again?

    July 25, 2016 at 8:56 am #110489
    Hang Do
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Thank you so so much for your patience and advice. What you have said is meant to me a lot. I can consider him and our relationship obviously. I have made decision that just let it go. I don’t want to waste time and suffer sadness for him, for our relationship.
    What you have been doing here for me, for other people is so wonderful. I wish you all the best. Thank you dear Anita 🙂

    July 24, 2016 at 10:07 pm #110453
    Hang Do
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    Dear Anita,
    This is his answer:”I called her my ex because I did not want to complicate things at the moment. I love her, but am not, “in love” with her. Don’t stress yourself. ” but he did not answer why he joined that dating site, looking for another girl there while having a girlfriend at home.

    Could you help me to get clear about loving and falling in love with someone? I did not think about this difference until him.

    July 24, 2016 at 10:45 am #110420
    Hang Do
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    Should i send him this email?
    ” I thought if it possible we just give us a chance until you said you have a girlfriend and that you do love her. I would love to tell you that no matter what happen I always wish you to be happy with your choice. But i wonder why did you call her your ex when we met up?
    I agree with you that Facebook sometimes brings lots of problems; that’s why I’ve never posted any pictures of my exes there unless I finally find out my man. When you asked me to add your Fb, I did not want to really because I was afraid of what I did not expect to see. I was obsessed by the mornings i surfed Facebook and the news feed showed my bfs with other girls.
    I remember what you said on your profile: sth like you do not expect jealously…I would be telling a lie, if I say I feel normal when seeing you with other girls. Why? because I am just only human, a normal girl and especially I like you a lot.Besides there are lots of girls around you and you are so”friendly” to them i guess.

    If you can, just block my Facebook page, You do know the reason, right?”

    July 24, 2016 at 10:23 am #110416
    Hang Do
    Participant

    I understand what you have just analyzed. Do you have suggestion for me to end up with him? should i send him the upper email? do you mind if you edit it or add some more ideas?
    Thank you so much!

    July 24, 2016 at 9:53 am #110410
    Hang Do
    Participant

    What do you think about his sayings:” Even if you still talk to guys on that site that’s cool/ If you do decide to keep talking with guys on that dating site…” ? I felt like he does not want me to meet up other guys on that site. How will you analyze it?

    July 24, 2016 at 9:45 am #110408
    Hang Do
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    Should i send him this email?
    ” I agree with you that Facebook sometimes brings lots of problems; that’s why I’ve never posted any pictures of my exes there unless I finally find out my man. When you asked me to add your Fb, I did not want to really because I was afraid of what I did not expect to see. I was obsessed by the mornings i surfed Facebook and the news feed showed my bfs with other girls.
    I remember what you said on your profile: sth like you do not expect jealously…I would be telling a lie, if I say I feel normal when seeing you with other girls. Why? because I am just only human, a normal girl and especially I like you a lot.
    I thought if it possible we just give us a chance until you said you have a girlfriend and that you do love her. I would love to tell you that no matter what happen I always wish you to be happy with your choice.
    If you can, just block my Facebook page, You do know the reason, right?”

    July 24, 2016 at 9:23 am #110405
    Hang Do
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Your analysis helps me a lot to reconsider our uncertain relationship. And I can see it is hopeless to develop our relationship. I am always unlucky in love and some relationships like this. I do not know what to do now. I am thinking of asking him to block my FB page then I can not hurt myself by seeing him with his gf. :((

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