Anita

To be true, I want to take revenge, she apologized, cried and gave me all type of explanation. Ik I miss her but I just want to take revenge. My childhood friend advices against it, but I just want to. She so easily killed us. Also I got comfortable with her, I miss that security too.

Hi Anita, again thanks for your reply.

Yes I am aware of the fearful avoidant style of mine and it had spillovers with SS too. It took me 1 year to say “I love you” to her and I was not keen to share a lot about my personal life to her. She kept asking for it and with time I did open to her, I was okay with it.

After I think April 2025, SS and me started having a lot of fights which continues till the day she cheated. She and her best friend planned to not tell me, but I still got to know from a good friend. So this best friend let’s call her SG was dating someone, who’s the good friend now. SG cheated on her boyfriend almost an year ago and I knew about it, I was asked not to tell him. A few nights ago he called me asking to tell him the truth, I told him and he told me. And I broke up.

Anita this relationship things go on. But something I’m really concerned about the confusion I have regarding everything in life career, job, relationships, money and future. I guess it comes out of a feeling of being scared and under confidence. I’d like you to give me insights on this confusion which I’m not able to solve.

It’s so nice to hear from you, I missed our conversations and your insights.

I again find myself in a going through life stumble. I apologize for not keeping you updated with you on our past conversations.

I found a new relationship in February 2024 and now in September 2025, I find that the girl I’m seeing cheated on me. We had been going through a rough patch for the past few months but this was something unexpected.

I again seek your kind insights and support dear Anita.

Hoping to hear from you
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Hi Anita, I understand what you’re trying to say, but it’s not about that she’s unavailable. It was never about that. I wasn’t even angry about it. I just felt a really strong connection which was reciprocated to me, I miss that connection with her. I haven’t been able to focus on my work for the past few days and just trying to get my thoughts off this.

That same connection I haven’t felt entirely with SS. And I think besides feelings I’m starting to get attached to SS which I’m not keen of. I was never attached to EN.

Thanks

Hi Anita, hope you’re well.

I apologise if I sounded rude, that was not my intention. Journalising is a good idea but I don’t feel like doing it.

Thanks

Hi Anita

I agree, that would be illogical.

Yes, feels like I’m stuck and wanna still say a lot to her.

I am glad to read that you are focused on your goals, and not rushing into a relationship! Yes, I’m glad about it too, this time I’m much more in control of my feelings.

better approach the prospect of a relationship at a later time, when you are more prepared to manage the challenges of a relationship. Yes that’s exactly I had in my mind, right now I don’t want to through my attachment issues, I wanna keep myself focused on my goals.

Thanks

Hi Anita.

I’m doing well. Thanks for keeping me in mind. I hope you’re doing really well and still guiding and helping people on this platform. I apologise for not keeping in touch with you. I hope we can keep in contact now. Id like that it you’d like it too
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Hi Anita, thanks again for your thoughtful reply and I hope you’re doing well.

I think I’m more clear of what I’d like. I think it’s better to stay as friends with EN (assuming she agrees) given the long distance. And I have framed a message and your thoughts on it would be appreciated.

Text –

Hey EN, well as every text starts, hope you’re doing well and etc etc. I’ll get straight to the point, you were on my mind recently for quite some time. I really enjoyed the conversations we had over the phone and I miss them. I know given the long distance thing you chose not to pursue it further and well the “you met someone else” lie was tactful, still I think it’s better to reach out and ask if you want to connect over call or something to catch up, let me know. And ik the disadvantages of a long distance relationship, but it’s never easy to find a genuine connection, hell it’s really hard. So I’m grateful we got connected, let’s try to stay in touch then if you feel the same.

Waiting for your reply patiently Anita. Thanks