Dear Anita

CIAM, a nice acronym. Thank you for the compliment friend, but I still feel like I can do better, and so I will.

That sounds so interesting, you’re almost a farmer then. I have always dreamed of saving enough money and buying a piece of farm and running my own business of veggies and fruits maybe. A relaxed life away from the chaos of the modern world. You are doing good work friend I hope you are enjoying it at the same time.

Why do you say it’s a much needed practice? And this brings me to share with you that I have planned to take myself out on a short solo trip, I will stay in a hostel and maybe make new friends. I’ll be going to a place which is very close to my heart and it’s been calling me for some time now. Earlier SS and I planned to go there before all the drama happened.

You’re a gentle creature Anita, I also ask for everyone’s happiness when I’m praying to the god I believe in. I hope for everyone’s happiness, me, my family, my friends, their families and for everyone on earth. That’s my prayer ritual.

On a side note, today was my first session of acne scar treatment, so my face is still swollen but I’m excited to see the results after a week or so. And I have also lost around 3 kg of weight, I’m on the right track. The only thing left behind is my studies, I have a very important exam in February 2026, the breakup effected my preparation a lot.

Anita, I still miss SS sometimes, thinking I could have done better, I should have shown up more and taken care of my avoidant attachment style. I miss her and I’m sad the SS I knew is no more. She’s just an image in my mind.

Hoping to hear from you soon friend. I’d like to know more about how your day/week went too.

GoingThroughLife

Dear Anita

I’m glad to be your youngest friend here, maybe I can get you in touch with your younger side and you bring me in touch with my older side through our conversations. It will be wonderful experience.

Thank you for your kind words friend, you helped through tough times, i would love to share my happy and motivating times too with you.

I can fully understand how your physical activity may be disturbed a bit, but I’m glad you’re getting to enjoy the rain. Rain and a warm cup of coffee always go hand in hand. Maybe you can utilise this time to focus on some of your other hobbies/work.

I’ll be happy to listen to your problems and challenges if you want to share friend, maybe I’ll not be as wise as you in giving advice but I’ll happily be your listening ear.

I’m really happy to hear your focus on becoming a better person Anita, and I think you’re a really good/awesome person right now too.

But I’m intrigued where do you find your hope dear Anita?

Maybe I didn’t thank you before, but thank you dear Anita for being with me through my latest breakup, you were/are an upliftment in my life, I’m grateful.

Hoping for your reply soon

Your much younger friend
GoingThroughLife

Dear Anita. I can totally relate, I myself enjoy going to the park and being between the trees and the birds. That’s all there is really.

Can I ask how do deal with loneliness, I’m personally not feeling good in my skin, I’m just seeking external validation.

My sister said to work on myself or I’ll be stuck in such relationships patterns.

I’m really glad you are enjoying friend, enjoy the nature, the trees, the wind to the fullest.

Hoping to hear from you soon

Goingthroughlife

Dear Anita, thank you.

It just hurts to think that’s she must be getting physical with someone else, someone she doesn’t know, doesn’t have a connection with. Maybe people, some women are just like that (sorry if I’m sounding sexist, I know the same applies to many men too).

Any advice?

Hoping for you reply soon.

Goingthroughlife

Dear Anita.

You have summarised very well. She kept calling me throughout the day, I have chosen to let her go now, no replies. E has no interest too to handle B’s panic attacks and he has blocked both of them from everywhere, he’s heartbroken too. I pray for him everyday.

I’m sorry Anita, you had to go through retrospective jealousy, it’s a tough situation to be on. I hope you are all well now.

It’s hard to let go of someone, when you know things could have been so different, but it is what it is.

Hoping for your reply soon. Anita, I would like to hear some words of comfort at the moment, that I will be okay, I can also attract good mates, fun relationships, and good career. I hope you can talk to me truthfully. Thank you friend.

Goingthroughlife

Dear Anita, thank you for your replies.

Yes I did have retrospective jealousy with SK, but I no longer suffer from it. I think that’s a wound I would love not to scratch again.

No, I am only jealous of the sexual activity right now, i did not care about previous things, never gave it any energy.

SS called me 50 times yesterday night and texts because her best friend has panic attacks. She says she needs help in discussing what I told her best friends ex about the cheating SS best friend did. I have chosen to ignore her, i don’t want to give any effort into her life now.

Hoping for your reply soon.

Dear Anita.

I let go of talking to SS 2 days back. But after 2 days she texted miss you out of the blue.

I talked to her like I don’t care and I’m fine with everything. Why is she texting I miss you after all this. I think she’s just immature. I wanted this to work really. I have asked God to give me what I need, and I have told him what I need.

I’m just keeping faith and patience to get what I need from the universe.

I am sorry if I have been less appreciate of you Anita. You are a wonderful human being, thank you for being here.

Hoping to hear from you soon.

Dear Anita, thank you for your kind words. I’m happy too.

To clarify, I was talking about SS’ best friend’s ex boyfriend, and I was only thinking in terms of a platonic relationship. We broke up together with our partners, so we have been supporting each other.

I don’t know if SS even misses me, we shared a lot of memories together, trips, nights, a lot of stuff. I’m sure she did everything in a rush. I just want to move on and tell myself I deserve the trust and integrity. Breakups are not easy….

Hoping for your reply soon dear Anita.

GoingThroughLife