Hi Katie

I have a beautiful best friend. Every time we go out men drop off their phone number and names with a “call me”. When Diane was pregnant men would run across a store to open a door for her. Once at a concert Diane dropped her sweater and the performer left the stage to retrieve and return her sweater. And on and on. Diane is also the most gorgeous person on the inside.

I don’t have “IT”. I never had IT. No amount of dieting or self care was ever going to give me “IT”

IT is a knowing that you are attractive and worthwhile. I’m a VERY worthwhile, smart, kind, caring, and giving person. I’m a great mother, friend, daughter, and pastwife.

I am unattractive. I am tall. I have huge hands and feet (man sized). I have dry frizzy hair. I have tiny eyes with droopy lids. I have a face that is long and narrow – like a lozenge.  All I ever wanted was to be cute and petite. Like my older sister.

I believe my un-attractiveness has kept me from getting the very best jobs. I have never had a huge selection of men that were interested in me. And yet I’m very happy. I acknowledge and accept that I’m unattractive (on the outside). I don’t put myself in situations where that is going to be an issue for me. I walk by the water, I sing, I play drum, I meditate, and I spend time with the people who love me.

Consider how close you are to achieving maximum attractiveness. You can create “IT” by believing in yourself, and loving yourself.  Be happy and content. Smile more – it’s a magnet. Praise yourself every morning and every night before bed. Set goals and work towards them.

Good luck!