Hi anita, I of course want a monogamous committed long term relationship but looks like it will be impossible ???

Basically she said they have never ever broken up, just having a hard time but still seeing each other and he kept assuring her that he wanted to be with her and would finish with me.

He said they indeed broke up but the break-up was very difficult and dragged on therefore they still had to meet to talk thing thru, he assured me that he wanted to be with me and would try to end the complicated break-up process.

Then I became more and more suspicious of him because I believed that she has no incentives to lie while he has lots of incentives to do so. Therefore I intensively confronted and insisted that he had to be distant to her OR we would finish. He eventually chose to be back to her and cut off with me.

Hi anita,

Yes you are right here

‘I don’t think it is a good idea to take what his now girlfriend said to you as the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. After all, she is a troubled woman, to want back a man who cheated her so many times, according to her words. Part of what she told you may not be true.

You wrote: “it was so perfect until the very last minute”- how was it perfect, and did he share with you anything about his life?’

I found it hard to believe fully he and she said as there were many mismatches in each of their version. Since then I didnt have a chance to talk to them in person as Im far away for a long time so I eventually didnt know the full truth which I truly wanted to. When he explicitly mentioned he couldnt cut ties with her, I know its no long worthy to get involved in anything so we broke up via text…but deep down inside, I would like to know the truth, what should I do now.