I too am haunted by what ifs. I have not found the answer yet. I married a man who loves me and I knew would NEVER hurt me. I was abused as a child and chose a safe husband. He is a good man and if he did ever hurt me It would be easy to leave because I am not head over heals in love with him. Fast forward MANY yrs. I realized I missed out on true love, the head over heals cant live with out love. I have thought so many times about leaving but he is a good man a great dad and treats me good, what if I do leave and never find the one or lose what I have , a good man. fast forward many more yrs. I cry myself to sleep every night. I dont know how to make myself LOVE what I have but am scared of leaving. I was a stay at home mom and never created a career for myself. I dont know how or what to do. I see the love in my daughters eyes towards her new husband and the smile that never left her face on her wedding day. I look back on my photos and I have no smile. at least not that smile. I am scared confused and want to love the man I married. How can I make myself be head over heals in love? He doesnt deserve a woman who isnt in love with him.