hi there, your post intrigued me because i have wondered at times if polyamory is something i would ever be interested in. i like the idea of it…but maybe not ready yet to let go of my current cultural conditioning. but after getting out of a 5-year relationship/engagement…i am having a harder time imagining myself tied down in an exclusive relationship with one man again. your post is reminding me to keep an open mind.

anyways, i thought i could offer some thoughts here. you say you are “struggling with what this really is”. i interpret that as you are struggling to define what you are going through. my question for you is, what if you didn’t need to define it? to have an answer about yourself? if you are enjoying..experiencing..learning..growing and having positive, healthy experiences, then what is the need to figure it out? you may wake up tomorrow..next week…next year..change your mind. meet a man who makes you feel like you want to be monogamous again. so what? we are constantly evolving and changing beings. we often get so wrapped up in judgment, worrying what society thinks…how maybe we don’t fit in to how we think we should be..we don’t see the box for us to check. we are “this” or we are “that”. are you poly? are you slutty? maybe both. maybe neither. does it matter?? perhaps we like the comfort of being able to define ourselves and relate to others by our definitions, but we also must keep in mind how limiting it can be. do YOU. you don’t owe the world (or even yourself) explanations.