Dear anita.
I forgive him 2 months toward the beginning of the job. But the fact that I don’t know what happens every night led me to continue to distrust. He contacted after finding a new job. But I couldn’t get over the cheating every women he looked at I believed he woulf flirt with her. So not making excused for him but should I have forgiven and but those things behind us and tried to make it work. I think I just wanted to be in relationship but physically I don’t allow myself to open back up.
How do one forgive? Do I forgive? Is this issue to big to forgive. Flirting leads to more and that fear plays a huge role on me. He say he doesn’t want to be with me because I havnt forgive and open up.
Is this situation worth truly trying again or is it best to let it end finally?????

Dear Anita,
Yes it does and I thanknow you. It has been hard because recently I decided to change careers and go to nursing school. Finishing up this year. We don’t live together and it has been very challenging
I expressed my reasons for being guarded. But it seem he only can state that it was only a job and he state he wouldn’t do it again. But it has been done before the job so I feel choosing that job is wanted to do those things and use “its a job” to make it exceptable.
I do love him. But he want me to be intimate again and open up more. He says he’s tired of “me” nagging. He is a good man. Available cooks cleans. Tell me everything on his life. But the issue is he finds it exceptable to flirt as he does and I just feel he don’t want. Yet he continues to chase after me.