Hi. I think we are in a same situation and I’m in my early 20s so I know how you’re feeling. I just broke up with my one year and four months boyfriend. How are you coping up with the break up? I have to say that things are getting better as time passes by, although I do cry once in a while when I remember things about us or when I miss him… But overall, things are getting better. I don’t know about you.. Do you still talk to the person? Having no connection with him is the best way to move on… I have stopped contacting my ex boyfriend because I know nothing can ever change his mind anymore. The more we chase the person, the more they will run away from you.

I can see that you have a lot of things that you dislike about the guy… but really, if he doesn’t wanna change, there’s nothing you can do. It’s out of your control, you can’t just change people they way you want them to be. I kinda realized that no matter how much I wanted to change my ex and stop hurting me, I can never do that unless if he really wants to. So I think you just have to walk away and move on. I know it’s hard and it is hard for me too. But you have to ask yourself, do you think it will EVER work even if you try harder and just hold on? and please note that, you are gonna feel the way you are feeling right now again and again if you stay with him. It ruins you the more you stay with him.. It’s your choice if you want to stay and hurt yourself more or just save yourself and move on…. You deserve to be happy. Don’t waste your time with someone who doesn’t treat you well.

I’m totally agree with you. I just broke up with my boyfriend a week ago. We are definitely in the same situation, and also long distance relationship. It’s so hurtful realizing that they are not the same person as they were before.

yes, someone who truly loves you will never do that to you and treat you like you’re nothing to him. Here’s what I usually tell myself: Even if I get back with him, I don’t think I would be able to trust him anymore and things definitely won’t be the same. I would have more doubts about him as he once left me like a shit.