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  • July 31, 2014 at 10:55 pm in reply to: Met perfect girl. But we can't be together. #62384
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    The problem I see here is that you view her as being “perfect” and that you have became desperate for her. If she was perfect for you, then the other guy wouldn’t be in the equation. You are seeing her for more than what she is worth, and you’re fooling yourself. You need to accept the fact that she isn’t “perfect” and that effort needs to be put in if you want her that bad, despite how you make it sound like she’s your soul-mate by that first moment being very “different.”

    I can’t tell you what you should do because I don’t know the small details of this, but I will tell you what I would do. I would move on and find someone else. I wouldn’t wait because that’s like you’re hoping for her relationship to not work out, and this hope would make you even more desperate for it to become a reality. Also, by waiting for this person, this might be in your way of seeing other people.

    July 31, 2014 at 9:53 pm in reply to: helpless in a cruel world #62380
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    hehehe… I understand because I do feel helpless myself. I have been placed on this planet and I do not have the option to get off it, just like how you can place a cockroach in a bottle and it’s just going to be stuck in there against its will. The cockroach is hopeless. The only way out is death, but that is another story. What I want to say is that it’s true, we’re helpless. We are at the mercy of this reality for whatever reason, and there is nothing we can do about it. How do I deal with this helplessness? I embrace the fact that I am helpless, that this is the reality that I have to live with. Instead of worrying about what I cannot change, I want to focus on what I can change. In other words, do what I can. It’s much more fulfilling than trying to go against something that you cannot change. Embrace your helplessness.

    July 31, 2014 at 9:29 pm in reply to: Depression and Anxiety: #62379
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    Maybe you’re too critical on yourself. Your mind is preoccupied with all these trivial matters that you forgot to feel good. My advice is to relax. Do not be so tense. Take a deep breath and carry on with life. Whatever happens, happens. Don’t think.. just feel. Don’t think how you want to be happy, and just be happy. Enjoy the small things in life. You don’t have to get caught up with these little things in life. Don’t let these things stop you from feeling good.

    Sorry for being general, but your problem starts with your mind. It is a problem if you think it is a problem.

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