I am wondering, isn’t texting a short-messages kind of communication (I don’t text), and do you have his email address which allows for longer messages?

You are right, though as we’re both quite young email isn’t really something we’d normally use for even longer messages. It would feel too formal.

If you were to send him a longer message (including in it a question or a few words…)

I’ll try it out here:

Hi [?],

Hope you’re OK. I had lots of fun on the course this summer. I know we talked about this a while ago, but there are a lot of things I feel I didn’t manage to clarify with you. First of all, I want to know how you felt about me then, and how you felt about me now. Second, I want to know if you’re really OK with us staying in contact as friends. And third…I’d really love to get to know you a bit better! You seem like a great guy.

Hope that helps…

The trouble with sex is everyone pretends to be cool about it. Here’s the thing: NO ONE is actually cool about it! Not you. And no, not even him.

Thanks Inky! I totally understand this- I expect he feels just as awkward as I do. I wish I could just forget him and move on as I’m about to start university, but I can’t help but see this as a huge loss. He made me feel safe, and I’m afraid no-one else will make me feel the same way.

He didn’t reply to you recently, that is not kind or charming. At the least you know now that he is not perfect.

I suppose that’s true. Maybe I’m seeing him in the wrong way. Chatting to him as a friend would certainly help me get over the “mating” instincts you describe.